Lotus

In my experience a good sponsor doesn't pull punches but isn't going to be using as a punching bag. If you're in a program then I'd say finding someone who is working the steps or program regularly. Someone who resonates with you in more than just their story. I was looking for guidance through a dark path and leaned on my sponsor for advice/venting/companionship. Don't feel like you have to stick with a sponsor if you don't feel comfortable. But don't bail if they get on you for not participating in the program or if you fall off. Ultimately its your (our) responsibilty to get help and to get better. Progress not perfection. Theres way more but I found you know when you find a sponsor and if not then move on if they are hurt thats not your fault. Be respecrful and be kind to yourself. Hope your doin well