Daughter of an alcoholic mother
Im 27 years old and was emotionally sheltered from my families problems up until the age of 24. My brother (father of 3) is a recovered alcoholic, who tried to take his life multiple times. my mum and dad supported him and nursed him through rehab and AA meetings which he successfully goes to every week now. After my brother found himself again and remains sober, my mother has fallen into a deep dark hole of alcoholism which had been progressively getting worse over the years. She drinks 20 - 30 standard drinks each day and my dad is in complete denial. I feel helpless, if I talk to my mum about her problem she will cut me out of her life and Im almost certain it will make her drinking worse... other wise I say nothing and just continue to love her and be there for her until she hits rock bottom. Im sure she knows she has a problem, but what she doesnt know its how badly its impacting everyone that loves her. Has anyone been in circumstance?
@Case3952 i am an alcoholic but my parents were abusive...the love of my life, after finding her after 25 years told me recently: "i cannot help you mylove if you do not want to be helped"...and she left me after months of efforts and support...maybe it was too much an effort for your mom...maybe she seeks attention now instead of your brother...noone knows...maybe she seeks compensation for her efforts in alcohol...one thing is certain...unless she wants to be cured you cannot do anything about it but just stand by her side in love...😔😔😔 i feel for your family, your brother and your mother and I know the personal hell that they went or go through...😔😔😔 people are overwhelmed by events and they fall into alchohol...be there by your mom and replace emotionally her need for alcohol. Judt give her the love endorphines that she needs instead of the poisonous alcohol...
With compassion, from an alcoholic. I feel them both and know what they went or go through...your mother needs love to replace the poisonous alcohol...can you give her that?
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@DonneMoi wow, thank you so much for responding. Thats very kind of you to reach out, especially because you have been through so much pain. Thats awful what you have been through, you show a lot of strength and wisdom through your words though. As hard as it is, its a relief reading your message as it gave me comfort knowing Im doing the right thing by just loving my mum. You truely just gave me some clarity... thank you.
