What I’ve noticed after being a listener (and only a listener) for 8years
I’ve been here long enough to witness the complete transformation of 7cups from good to worse! When it use to be 7cupsoftea was when it was at its peak… I really think this website should, have a way where you cannot log on if you been on here to many hours! Most people here don’t actually want help, just to set in depression. I’ve read to many post where people post nothing but sadness depression etc. they don’t want to take meds which is fine, they don’t want to go to a therapist etc needing constant cheering up etc. that makes other people who might come here just needing a quick cheering up not receiving it because the boards no matter what community it’s in, is literally filled with depressed people no matter the time of day or night etc I really wish the actual owners of this app put all that in just oNe community and allow good feel stories to run across the board! I get it we all get depressed throughout life but TOO MANY literally come here to bring everyone else down by their depression smh!
@highlyintuition1
i tend to agree that while some have clear issues lately it has been one line things not posting a problem and others thinking they can find dates or something ...... the people actually looking for advice or help sit waiting and waiting because many just want to wallow in misery
@highlyintuition1 Hey there, I have also seen people looking for attention or posting one-liners without any background. I agree that wallowing in misery is not helpful. I LOVE your suggestion of feel-good posts! I challenge you, and anyone else reading this, to create one! Maybe it will catch on!
Also, THANK YOU for being a ddedicated listener for so many years. I have only been here a few months, but I greatly admire those who have come before me, and have helped to grow the communities and connections made within 7 cups.
@highlyintuition1
Nice to meet you ☺️ I've also been a Listener for several years (on and off). I can see what you mean.
Sometimes when I chat with a member/read posts, they seem to be stuck in a cycle of negativity and it can be hard. I've interacted with people like that in face to face interactions and they really don't seem to want to grow. It is draining.
Some members do need support that is way beyond what we can do online. Even in real life, some people need a team of experts and time to grow into their potential.
It sounds like you are feeling exhausted of seeing the same stuff and wish the website could be how it used to be. What helps me is to maintain boundaries with members, focus on the positives, and log off to enjoy my life, when I feel it is necessary. I find this site to be very helpful and an inclusive community for those who truly want to be a part of a positive environment. I hope you stick around, people hear your feedback, and continue to contribute to this great community. Looks like you really care and have made a positive difference in the lives of many people so this should be easy 😉 Take care ✨🌸
