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Things no one tells you about Self-Harm: Trigger Warning
by Jenna
Last post
 September 7th
...See more Everyone mentions the same things when they talk about self-harm. This is what I wish someone told me about self-harm before I fell into its tight gripping claws. 1) It's not only the cuts/bruises/burns/scratches that you have to hide. You have to hide the bloodied tissues, the used band-aids, the band-aid wrapper, and the thing you used to harm. 2) When you shower the dried blood drips out of your band-aid and down your body creating little dark red, almost brown, colored streams. It scares you at first because you think it's opened again. 3) It becomes an addiction. It becomes the only thing that helps. 4) It eventually doesn't help anymore but you keep doing it in the hope it will. 5) Your body will scar and at first, you will like it but eventually, you get sick looking at them. 6) On a bad day, you run out of space. 7) Your band-aids will soak through your jeans or top after a shower and make an obvious square or rectangle patch. 8) They start to smell bad if not looked after. 9) You constantly think about them. 10) Your sleep will hurt and every move you make will too when they are fresh. You act as you like it. You don't. 11) People will never take it seriously enough. 12) They itch like mad whilst they heal. 13) You eventually get frustrated if it has no effect. 14) You don't cry when you do it. You feel nothing. Not. A. Thing. 15) It's so so so hard to escape it. 16) It isn't beautiful. It isn't a fairy tale. It won't help you find love. It is a monster that ruins lives. Please think of all these things before you hurt yourself. You don't want to. I sound like a hypocrite because I do but trust me, you don't want to fall down the dark hole that I and many other people are already in. Put down your fist, blade, lighter, cut your nail short, and get help.
Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 September 1st
...See more Well done! ๐Ÿ’ชโœจย  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.ย  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:ย  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you.ย 
Summertime Check In
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 June 20th
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DON'T QUIT
by juliak1968
Last post
 May 31st
...See more Never ever give up! The worst of storms will always pass followed by some of the most beautiful blue skies and sun shining so brightly. When I feel the blessings of the great weather and have said to myself "I'm so grateful that I didn't " You're not alone!! As we all support each other, we grow mentally strong because we learn so much, and now we have the tools (or you will soon) to cope and establish a healthy routine with some practicing self discipline, and as we support each other we get that sense of purpose some of us are missing. (I was) Blessings, Day
Self harm โ— trigger warning โš ๏ธ
by Friendlychestnut4464
Last post
 January 8th
...See more I started when I was twelve. I used to scratch my wrists with a scissor. My mom then found out, dragged me to the hospital and basically made things worse, I was literally forced to stop. I kept myself clean for six months or so until march 2023. I started cutting my thighs open with blades and anything I could find that would cut. And since then it's just been ***. I stayed clean for a week and I'd do it again, I had my blades on me at all times just incase. I had stayed clean for a month until in November I think, I felt horrible but my parents were going out and I said I didn't want to come, I begged them to stay because I was scared I'd do it again but I couldn't tell them that. They left and I ended up cutting again. I didn't know what to do so I got drunk and went to bed. I stayed clean for a few. Until last month I couldn't take it anymore, I took my blades again and cut my entire forearm open and my elbow, I cut my thighs leaving big marks. They started scarring and I know they're going to stay. Yesterday I got a big urge to just drag the blade on my wrists again, so I did it but I put the blade down before actually doing anything that would lead to big problems. I didn't know what to do so I went on character.ai and searched for those ai therapists and it mentioned this app. So this is me trying to find a way to maybe trust people, since I can't open up to anyone.
SH
by sage0not0found
Last post
 December 5th, 2023
...See more I've been clean for a week now and I'm pretty proud but I'm feeling the urge idrk
It Is Possible.
by OllieRNLI999
Last post
 November 28th, 2023
...See more "It is possible to live without self-harm. It is important to know that you wonโ€™t always feel the way you do now. With the right help and support most people who self-harm can and do fully recover." When you read this statement, what are your thoughts? When I read it, I dream of passing on strength and warmth to each and every one of you on here! You guys can overcome these struggles, and go on to live a happy & fulfilling life!ย ๐ŸŒˆ
SH
by ItsOkayNOTtoBeOkay13
Last post
 November 26th, 2023
...See more Ok so I havenโ€™t self harmed for like a month now and thatโ€™s really good, but every time I see my scars itโ€™s like itโ€™s drawing me back to my past. I feel like as long as I have my scars, part of me will always be back where I used to be and those scars just remind me of the dark place Iโ€™ve worked so hard to get out of. Anyone else felt he same?
SELF HARM
by poopiedookie
Last post
 November 1st, 2023
...See more TRIGGER WARNING (self-harm) The weight of my struggles becomes unbearable, as I yearn for someone to reach out and offer a lifeline. I wonder if it is my fault, if I am somehow unworthy of support and compassion. The stigma surrounding mental health issues looms over me, casting a shadow of shame and guilt. It feels as though society has turned its back on me, leaving me to navigate this treacherous path alone. In my darkest moments, I contemplate the possibility of a different outcome. What if someone were to notice the signs, to see through the facade I wear each day? Would they understand the depths of my pain, the battles I fight within myself? Or would they simply dismiss it as attention-seeking or weakness? The isolation becomes suffocating, as I yearn for connection and understanding. I long for someone to listen without judgment, to offer a shoulder to lean on when I can no longer bear the weight of my own despair. But as the days turn into weeks, and the weeks into months, it becomes clear that the support I so desperately crave is nowhere to be found. In this cycle of self-destruction, I am left to question my own worth. Am I not deserving of love and compassion? Is my pain not valid enough to warrant assistance? The doubts and self-blame only serve to deepen the wounds, pushing me further into the abyss. Yet, amidst the darkness, a flicker of hope remains. It is a small voice within me that whispers, reminding me that I am not alone. It tells me that there are others out there who have walked this path, who have emerged from the depths of despair. It is this glimmer of hope that keeps me going, that fuels my determination to find a way out of this cycle. I may be trapped in this seemingly endless struggle, but I refuse to let it define me. I will continue to fight, to seek solace and support, even if it means reaching out to strangers or seeking professional help. I will not let the indifference of others extinguish the flame of hope within me. For in the depths of my pain, I am reminded that I am not alone. There are others who understand, who have faced their own demons and emerged stronger. And with their stories as my guide, I will continue to push forward, knowing that one day, I will find the solace and support I so desperately seek.
tw sh !!
by tmariee23
Last post
 October 2nd, 2023
...See more so since i was 13 i struggled with sh until i was 15 years old. every little problem i was faced with i turned to hurting myself. i always wore long sleeves and pants even when it was hot day. i feel ashamed that i felt the need to do that to myself. i was faced with so many struggles and sh was my only escape. for anyone out there who is still hurting by this awful coping mechanism i want to say that i believe it will get better, and that dark days never last forever. never give up on this life because there can be great things that come from it. be patient and loving with yourself. be proud that u got out of bed today and i hope u continue down this path of self healing. i wish i can go back to my 13 year old self to give her a hug and let her know that better days are coming. be easy on yourself today, its okay not to feel okay.
Self harm ueges
by diligentTurtle7641
Last post
 July 1st, 2023
...See more The urge has come back after so long. I feel like I have no one to talk to about it. I can't keep fighting the urges. My mom also found out about me self harming and just yelled at me and said if she catches me doing it again she was going to send me away. I don't want to go away from where I feel comfortable. I don't know what to do.
Trigger warning. Bad thoughts lately.
by shyhafu
Last post
 June 25th, 2023
...See more It started with thinking about it. Now im searching ways how to do it painlessly. I donโ€™t think i can do it. Should i go back to work? They gave me 15 days leave to recover from anxiety and now I have to go back soon. Been on fluoxetine for almost a month. I dont think itโ€™s helping. Should I be bothered by whatโ€™s happening to me?
Relapsing after 2 years
by Justmekoo
Last post
 June 23rd, 2023
...See more ๏ธ trigger warning ๏ธ I have been fighting with self harm and depression for almost 4 years. Attempted self harm few times before I had the courage to fight against it with the help of my therapist. I don't go to therapy anymore because I have been doing very well. my boyfriend talked about suicide and went awol for 24hrs today. After multiple attempts to reach him, I got a hold of him, he is ok and doing ok. And I am so so thankful for that. As hypocritical this sounds for me to say I am relapsing thinking about self harm, that's exactly what's on my mind now. The emotions I am going through, makes me doubt myself and makes me want to give up. It was so stressful, it's been hours and I can't stop shaking. , it still lingers and it's hard for me. It's a trigger for me. And it makes me want to do it. I have the means for it. Everytime I relaps, I think to myself it takes months to build myself and a second to break me. Is it really worth it?
Pride Month! ๐ŸŒˆ
by CalmWaves3939
Last post
 June 14th, 2023
...See more Hiya Everyone! As a lot of you may know, this month is Pride Month๐Ÿ˜Š This month is all about spreading awareness and encouraging open conversations about the LGBTQ+ "Pride is a celebration of people coming together in love and friendship, to show how far LGBTQ+ rights have come, and how in some places, there's still work to be done." ( Pride: What is it and why do people celebrate it? - BBC Newsround [https://www.bbc.co.uk/newsround/52872693] ) Pride month can be difficult for a lot of people as it may remind them of the struggles they have to deal with themselves whether this be current or previous struggles. During this month on 7 cups there are several discussions and interesting things happening which you can find more information on here: - Pride Month (Master Post) - 7 Cups Forum [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/HonoringVolunteersSpecialEvents_2119/PrideMonthMasterPost_280386/] -Pride 2023 Wall of Affirmations & Allyship! - 7 Cups Forum [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/Pride2023WallofAffirmationsAllyship_306645/] ๏ปฟIf anyone would like to share their experiences/ thoughts or feelings about this month and please feel free to in the comments! 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(tw) relapsed and need advice
by ilovesleepinggg33
Last post
 June 7th, 2023
...See more I was clean for almost a week but like always I relapsed. The urges always come back and they came back worse than before. Fresh *** scars cover my skin in areas no one could see so I wouldn't get asked "what happened?" I need help I need to talk to someone about it but i can't. I'm scared they'll think I'm some sort of unstable freak . I have no one who can help me I have to go through this all alone is the worst part. I just wanna stop but I canโ€™t.

Hello, and welcome to the Self-Harm Recovery Subcommunity! Itโ€™s great to have you here, and we are proud of you for making the first brave step in reaching out for support. This is our supportive, safe and friendly environment, and we are glad to have you here ๐Ÿ˜ƒ. Feel free to direct any questions to the appropriate leader of our community, which you can find at the bottom of the about section. โญ๏ธ

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These guidelines are inspired by some communities around 7 cups! This is so we can adapt our little family to accommodate as many different life experiences and situations as possible. We recognize we cannot adapt to every circumstantial rule. However, we have outlined some of the common guidelines needed for our community. โค๏ธ

โœช Please do not share any graphic images or descriptions of self-harm tools!

โœช Please do not mention the name of any tools used for self-harm in any area of the self-harm recovery community.

โœช Names of methods of self-harm are allowed to be shared in the group support room, but where possible please try to exchange a method name for the phrase "self-harm".

โœช When mentioning methods of self-harm or potentially triggering details of another topic in the forums, please put a trigger warning at the top of the post so people are able to click away from the post if they would like to. Additionally, please try to find an appropriate place within our forums to make your post. Certain areas are reserved for specific content, so please consider this when making your post.

โœช Pro-self-harm content will not be tolerated!

โœช Please be respectful to everyone, members and listeners alike.

โœช Remember, everyone's experiences are different. Please do not undermine or invalidate anyone's situation because it is not what most would consider "normal". We are a diverse community and have people from many backgrounds, so please always be respectful!

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