talking about sh
Hey peoples! I have some questions about telling people about sh. I’ve been worrying that my gf might be getting suspicious, same with my cousin, but I worry about how they’ll react. I don’t want them to think I’m hiding things. How should I approach the subject? Is anybody else struggling with this?
It really depends on your circumstances. If they care about you, hiding and lying about it will just make situation worse in the future. If they are understanding and want to help - tell your reasons and try to find solutions ( there is no immediate, but there are ways to reduce harm and replace it with healthy coping mechanisms.)
Sometimes people can react irrational and not supportive. In this situation you should stand up for yourself, not let them neglect your experience and problems. Say it's a part of your life, you are not proud of it and trying to improve.
I myself struggle to ask my parents for help with my mental health. Hope everything will turn out good for you🫂
@QueerDragonsRule the first person i ever told was my bsf, i sent her a pic of the scars. For me, being behind a screen and not being able to see her reaction made it easier. You really don’t have to complicate things, just say “i hurt myself.” And let them ask the questions. It’s going to be so so so scary. But i promise, someone knowing and being there to listen to u rly helps. Ur so much stronger than u think. <3
@QueerDragonsRule
I think that the way that everyone approaches this is different. The most important thing for me to remember when I’m sharing something of this nature is that if someone is truly supportive and really loves or cares about me, they will not judge me and will do their best to be supportive.
Hiw do you think they might react? What is the worse case scenario? Best case scenario?
Kristy
@QueerDragonsRule hello! i had been struggling with the sams issue. um.. i dont have any suggestions but an experience to share. so, months ago my friend asked me about the scars and i told her the truth that i had been suffering from hard times and this is how i coped with things. my friend was not over-reactive. she listened to me and understood my story. that day, i felt happy that i no longer feel ashamed of my scars and telling about this has never caused any issue in the relationship with that friend. meanwhile, when my cousin asked i told her the same and she was confused about why would somebody hurt themself but then i told her that things are at manageable condition so she doesn't need to worry. she didn't put much thought into it and we let the matter slide.
