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Things no one tells you about Self-Harm: Trigger Warning
by Jenna
Last post
 September 7th
...See more Everyone mentions the same things when they talk about self-harm. This is what I wish someone told me about self-harm before I fell into its tight gripping claws. 1) It's not only the cuts/bruises/burns/scratches that you have to hide. You have to hide the bloodied tissues, the used band-aids, the band-aid wrapper, and the thing you used to harm. 2) When you shower the dried blood drips out of your band-aid and down your body creating little dark red, almost brown, colored streams. It scares you at first because you think it's opened again. 3) It becomes an addiction. It becomes the only thing that helps. 4) It eventually doesn't help anymore but you keep doing it in the hope it will. 5) Your body will scar and at first, you will like it but eventually, you get sick looking at them. 6) On a bad day, you run out of space. 7) Your band-aids will soak through your jeans or top after a shower and make an obvious square or rectangle patch. 8) They start to smell bad if not looked after. 9) You constantly think about them. 10) Your sleep will hurt and every move you make will too when they are fresh. You act as you like it. You don't. 11) People will never take it seriously enough. 12) They itch like mad whilst they heal. 13) You eventually get frustrated if it has no effect. 14) You don't cry when you do it. You feel nothing. Not. A. Thing. 15) It's so so so hard to escape it. 16) It isn't beautiful. It isn't a fairy tale. It won't help you find love. It is a monster that ruins lives. Please think of all these things before you hurt yourself. You don't want to. I sound like a hypocrite because I do but trust me, you don't want to fall down the dark hole that I and many other people are already in. Put down your fist, blade, lighter, cut your nail short, and get help.
Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 September 1st
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
Summertime Check In
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 June 20th
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recovery
by fairyfroggler5754
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more hi. Its been a hard time getting better after my mom found out that I had been hurting myself, but i’m nearly 8 months clean and its so bizarre how far i’ve come. I’ve certainly had my ups and down but it gets better, sometimes my mom wasn’t all that supportive and I understand why but she really helped sometimes. And my friends too, they are all really amazing. I’m glad that my friends had given so many words of encouragement, they said they were proud of me so I began feeling proud of myself. It feels pretty rewarding being almost 8 months clean. Congrats to me and everyone else, we’ve all come so far!! And even if you’re one week clean at the moment just know that you CAN get better. Don’t give up, you don’t know how amazing you can be.
Whyyy am i doing it? Good question
by Sebastian0o0
Last post
 11 hours ago
...See more Tw————- sh why do i self harm? I have no idea i just do i get urges no matter how im feeling and when i do it i *** hate it so much idk why i even get urges in the first place honestly there is no point to these urges and its bugging me out i just randomly one day started getting them in skl and guess what now i get urges every *** day its not even been a week of this *** ive never cut deep enough to bleed however the most painful part of it is trying to hide that *** bcuz it still leaves marks in fact the main reason why i dont cut enough to bleed is bcuz ik it will not go fast ik the marks will last ages
Hey do yall have any coping mechanisms for when u get SH urges? TW: self harm
by Sophia7721
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hi I'm 14 and have been SH clean for bout 4 days now but I still get the urges to cut myself and I don't all know what to do to distract myself from it so if you all had any ideas/tips/or anything rlly to help with that I'd be grateful to hear um:)
General
by Happykiddo174
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Anyone have some alternatives I can try?
On a journey of healing
by wintertuolis
Last post
 Friday
...See more I have been experiencing self-harm triggers last time I cut myself was 2 days ago but one of my friends and my parents saw it and gave me a lecture Since then I have been thinking of healing. I don't want to be a burden I want to be strong enough to deal with everything  and day 2 of staying clean! I didn't touch my cutter or try to harm myself 
Coping
by Happykiddo174
Last post
 Friday
...See more Today was really hard to cope. Does anyone have any alternatives I can try?
Tw my self-harming thoughs
by Birchtreebird11
Last post
 Friday
...See more In my head I sometimes become a clone of myself, or a quadruped monster- just to hurt myself. Kick myself to the floor or maul myself. Make sure I'm left on the floor and weak, or bleeding out. The desire to let go and stop holding back and damage myself until I'm a gorey mess can get overwhelming sometimes. The desire to rip myself apart, the satisfaction I feel it'd bring, the way I want to just *** lose it- why do I feel that way?
Just a girl
by Justagirlwhonamesstartwithn
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Hey I'm 16,(female) I deal with depression anxiety, and been really heavy on self harm thoughts. I have a Theripst but, It doesn't really help, I feel ashamed to even spit a word out. Anyway I'm just looking for people, I guess. -I'll be stressing over my school work in my room if anyone reaches out(lol)
New here, talking about who I am.
by AmyGrace55555
Last post
 Monday
...See more Hello, I am new to both the community and 7 cups. Although I am new, I have a lot of experience with a lot of things. Once of these things is self harm. This is something I have struggled with for about 3 years now, but I am proud to say that I have gone almost a month without any problems. If you struggle with this, know you are not alone. If you were alone in this, the community wouldn’t exist.  ------------------------- Anyways I would love to get to know everyone. How is everyone’s day going today?
trigger warning: self harm
by navyKiwi1776
Last post
 September 7th
...See more I've been feeling compulsive to hit my head repeatedly for a year, almost everyday. I'm trying to not as I can but it hurts more when i don't. And lately, these months i started to get overwhelmed so easily by my surroundings, or little things such as plan changes, even the way i put down the salt to the table. I tense up and feel the need to cover my ears or eyes. It hurts my brain. I'm 16. I'm concerned that I might have given myself a mild brain trauma. I cant ask help from my parents. When I had a breakdown like that in front of my mother because she raised her hand at me, she just mocked me by telling me to keep hitting myself. I dont really think the school counselor could help, I dont even know how to bring that up. I've been feeling hungry for air for at least 6 months and my heart hurts everyday. I'm stuck. All I want is to be able to study and degree at my university exam but I can't even stay still without starting to fidget sharply or hit myself repeatedly
Sh free for a month!
by Ya067
Last post
 September 7th
...See more I’m very happy I was able to stay clean for a whole month. Every time I got the urge, I tried to distract myself from it and it works. I usually just play a game or talk to a friend. I talked to my friend about my mom finding out about my SH and she was really nice about it. Let’s go for 3 months!
Fighting the urge
by needToWakeUpInTheMorning
Last post
 September 7th
...See more Nothing calms me down like giving into that feeling. My mind shuts up for a second and I breathe. Everything seems simpler when the only pain you are feeling is physical. Why is it so addictive?

Hello, and welcome to the Self-Harm Recovery Subcommunity! It’s great to have you here, and we are proud of you for making the first brave step in reaching out for support. This is our supportive, safe and friendly environment, and we are glad to have you here 😃. Feel free to direct any questions to the appropriate leader of our community, which you can find at the bottom of the about section. ⭐️

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Community Guidelines

These guidelines are inspired by some communities around 7 cups! This is so we can adapt our little family to accommodate as many different life experiences and situations as possible. We recognize we cannot adapt to every circumstantial rule. However, we have outlined some of the common guidelines needed for our community. ❤️

✪ Please do not share any graphic images or descriptions of self-harm tools!

✪ Please do not mention the name of any tools used for self-harm in any area of the self-harm recovery community.

✪ Names of methods of self-harm are allowed to be shared in the group support room, but where possible please try to exchange a method name for the phrase "self-harm".

✪ When mentioning methods of self-harm or potentially triggering details of another topic in the forums, please put a trigger warning at the top of the post so people are able to click away from the post if they would like to. Additionally, please try to find an appropriate place within our forums to make your post. Certain areas are reserved for specific content, so please consider this when making your post.

✪ Pro-self-harm content will not be tolerated!

✪ Please be respectful to everyone, members and listeners alike.

✪ Remember, everyone's experiences are different. Please do not undermine or invalidate anyone's situation because it is not what most would consider "normal". We are a diverse community and have people from many backgrounds, so please always be respectful!

✪ General kindness, courtesy, and etiquette are heavily appreciated!

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