Wife Always on Social Media means I'm not worth talking to
So my wife found social media sites about 1.5 years ago- until then it wasn't a thing. I still hate it and have nothing to do with those sites. After a little while on the sites, my wife just spends every waking moment on social media- liking and chatting with hundreds of people a day. Yet I can't get her attention ever. I've had functional depression for a long time, but now it's gone to MDD and every time she is on her phone I feel like she must be doing it because I'm boring, stupid, and not worth any of her time. She says that's not true- but actions are bigger than words and she never hears me, constantly ignores me for the phone and every day I feel like an even bigger loser.
With MDD I am not motivated to do anything- but I keep trying to make sense of all of this. I do all the cooking and cleaning to try to make her notice me- but nothing. I'm lonely and boring- and I'm trying to figure out how to fix this. Every time I try to bring up this in a conversation it ends in a heated conversation- at least on her side. I'm so defeated.. Any and all suggestions would be great.
@Tri2BHappy
people get all hooked up in social media in my opinion is not about you.... but about her... social media is a way some people make them up to re-invent themselves to forget or re frame parts they do not like about themselves..
if you want join too she may lose interest not as fun .........when someone who knows the real her could out version of story and life story she created.
@Tri2BHappy
I can imagine how painful and overwhelming this situation must be for you. Feeling like you’re constantly competing with social media for your wife’s attention can be deeply hurtful, especially when you’re struggling with your own mental health. It’s understandable to feel isolated and unimportant when it seems like the time and energy you’re putting into maintaining the household and your relationship isn’t being recognized or reciprocated.
It sounds like you’re feeling increasingly disconnected, which is incredibly tough. When you’re doing everything you can to contribute and be noticed, and it still feels like you’re being overlooked, it can really amplify feelings of worthlessness and frustration. The way you’re interpreting her actions—that she might think you’re boring or not worth her time—can be a heavy burden to carry.
Dealing with depression on top of this complicates everything even further. It’s common for depression to distort how we view ourselves and our situations, making it harder to see things clearly or to feel hopeful about changes. This can add to the feeling of being stuck in a cycle where nothing you do seems to make a difference.
Your experience of trying to communicate and ending up in heated discussions only makes the situation more disheartening. It’s hard to feel like your concerns aren’t being heard or understood, and that must leave you feeling even more isolated.
It’s important to recognize how much you’re going through and to acknowledge the strength it takes to manage these feelings daily. Your feelings of hurt and loneliness are valid, and it’s crucial to find support for yourself as you navigate this challenging time.
