Does this situation still bother me because of self -esteem issues

Hi everyone,

I’ve been working through some lingering feelings about something that happened in my relationship over a year ago, and I’m trying to understand why it still bothers me.

To give some context, my girlfriend cried when someone she used to be friends with benefits with went into a dangerous situation (the military). She explained that it wasn’t about him specifically, but the danger of the situation itself, and she’s reassured me many times that her feelings are for me and not him. She’s consistently chosen me and shown me love and commitment, but for some reason, I still can’t fully shake this.

I’ve started to wonder if my struggle is more about my own self-esteem than anything she did. The situation made me feel like I wasn’t enough for her, even though she’s told me repeatedly that I am. I’m trying to figure out if these lingering feelings are tied to my self-worth and if that’s why it’s hard for me to let go.

Has anyone else dealt with something like this? If so, how did you work through it? How can I better identify if this is a self-esteem issue and take steps to resolve it?

Thanks in advance for your thoughts and advice!