help me to have a better self-esteem

@DaniToon

Hello ☺️ Your life revolving around the others all the time, and completely no one eager to 'pay it back' to you with friendship? How were you able to achieve that? 😊 More seriously: I think people often make friends with the ones they can rely on, and it often works both ways.

Usually the first thing to improve your self-esteem might be the writing exercise on the subject "What I am good at?" or "Why some people may like me?". Without concentrating too much on the worse part.

Another issue is to not doubt about the purpose of your existence: While you are here and breathe, you were meant to be here and breathe. You have the right to exist, to not being perfect (and to improve), to love and be loved.

The third thing is repairing any "leaks" in your self-esteem. It sometimes happens when you were wounded, hurt or abused in the past. Or if you still let to be mistreated now. Or when you find yourself in a situation of repeatedly doing something against yourself (your values, feelings or beliefs).

Finally, there are other people around. Being somebody's son, brother, friend, husband may give you a great sense of being valuable. But you should keep some self-esteem even if you are on a lonely island. Because sometimes you may walk alone or have to go 'against the stream'.

This is from my humble experience...