How do you forgive someone for being mean to you?
There was this girl in my high school who was only nice to certain people and really really mean to my friends and me and when she graduated I apologised that stupid drama had happened (even though more of it was her hurting me) to be mature and try to get some closure...but she only noted her surprise that I was bisexual, not thinking about how I'd recently been diagnosed and dealing with depression and anxiety while she was being so awful to me. How can I move on and forgive her? I also tend to gravitate towards depressing/dark topics which I need to stop doing (but it's hard finding good content that's NOT depressing for people my age) so I made the mistake of looking on her fb page and it really hurt me. She looked like someone I could've been friends with, back before she changed herself so drastically over a bad breakup. Well, either way she brought out the worst in a lot of people and was only friends with those who I used to like until they stabbed me in the back. :'(
Hey, the only way to forgive someone who is mean to you and hurt you is to forgive them (confusing, huh?). You did your best trying to sort out all the misunderstanding. Now just slowly let it go. Grant that person forgiveness. You will know when it happens. There will come a time when you won't care about what she said, or it wouldn't hurt you. Just give it time to heal.
@colourfulSpring22 I agree. You did your part and you treated her with respect. You should be treated with that same respect. There will come a time where you will not care :)
@uniqueMango45 Woah, that sounds like a lot of drama. :/ Unfortunately, there tends to be drama in high school and out of high school. Though people always have the ability to hurt others, they also always have the opportuities to bring each other up. A part of that is forgiveness. I feel like sometimes forgiveness can occur, even if the person who did wrong isn't necessarily apologetic. Forgiveness is more about internalizing what went wrong and realizing that everyone makes mistakes, some worse than others. Forgiveness is also about having faith in people, realizing that they can grow and mature and become better people if they want to. You can always decide what you want to do - if you want to be friends with this person, if you want to move on, if you forgive and let go, or if you hold onto the past. Forgiveness can be hard, but once you do it, it feels as if a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. There's so much you can give to the world - forgiveness is one of those things, when you're ready to.
It's a shame that she didn't really focus on the problems at hand and that she didn't really focus on how she hurt you or anyone else, for that matter. You deserve better than that. Please know that if you ever need someone to talk to, there are so many listeners here for you. <3
