So much for being open and honest
I wasn’t feeling well so I was laying in bed. My husband and I just reconciled. Something told me to look at what he was doing. I kinda leaned over to see and he was texting someone. He had his phone and was leaning off to the side of the bed. So I sat up. And he didn’t notice at first. I could see the convo back and forth. I remember seeing 3 emoji faces from the responder. 😃😃😃, when I asked him who he was texting with, he said he was looking at the news and hurried and shut it. ❌wrong answer. I clearly know what I saw. That was not news. And why would you be leaning over the side of the bed to look at the news??? ❌❌ was it this I was looking at, he asked. This was on his other phone. I asked him if he thought I was that stupid. I said, don’t gaslight me and tell me I didn’t see what I saw. I got a 3-5 second look before I asked who he was texting. I KNOW WHAT I SAW!!!
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I'm sorry you're going thru this, it's so hard when trust is lost. Take care.
Definitely hold him accountable. For any relationship to work there has to be trust and full transparency - including what is on his phone. If anything, you two should be able to pick each other’s phones up at any time with no questions asked. Since there should be so much trust, there shouldn’t be anything for either of you to worry about. The fact that he is hiding his phone and the fact that he is lying about what you explicitly saw is not a good sign. I’m proud of you for not allowing him to gaslight you and continuing to pursue the truth, even if it hurts.