Shame…
So ten years ago I started having an affair with a man that was amazing….i gave up everything…my home, my husband, my friends, traumatized my son. We have been married 6 1/2 years and it’s a disaster…he is the most selfish human I have ever met. I feel so much shame for the decision I made and now I feel like I can’t go through another divorce. I’m so broken…
@rj1808
I am sorry you are facing that ... often I feel we think a person is amazing and overlook faults until we can no longer ignore it. Of course he is selfish if he started a relationship with someone who had so much to lose. I understand you are ashamed that the love/ life you chased was a mirage.
If your family loves you they will see you are hurting and and know people make mistakes ... misjudge people when in the feeling of love. This is not a reflection on you ... trying for love is always a risk.