Shame…
So ten years ago I started having an affair with a man that was amazing….i gave up everything…my home, my husband, my friends, traumatized my son. We have been married 6 1/2 years and it’s a disaster…he is the most selfish human I have ever met. I feel so much shame for the decision I made and now I feel like I can’t go through another divorce. I’m so broken…
@rj1808
I am sorry you are facing that ... often I feel we think a person is amazing and overlook faults until we can no longer ignore it. Of course he is selfish if he started a relationship with someone who had so much to lose. I understand you are ashamed that the love/ life you chased was a mirage.
If your family loves you they will see you are hurting and and know people make mistakes ... misjudge people when in the feeling of love. This is not a reflection on you ... trying for love is always a risk.
@rj1808 I'm sorry you're going through this, this must be hard for you. i understand how you may feel alone and can't help but regret it now that he's turned out this way. have you tried talking to others for guidance? this is very serious, and remember you deserve love and shouldn't have to deal with someone hurting you mentally or physically! have you tried talking to him about his behavior? a conversation about it can do a lot for yourself and him in the relationship.
