Partner with cptsd
Hello lovely Poeple,
my Situation is as follows:
My partner has a history of severe abused, not only from his parents, but also by 2 expartners. One of them sexually and physically and emotionally abused her for a prolonged time.
We got together and she told me all that and i was ok with it. Because she ist Just a so lovely and great Person.
Now after 8Months of Relationship she had a breakdown and now everything that happened crushed down in her.
She was in a psychiatric clinic for 2 Weeks and had Like thousands Insights.
But now she tells me, she Sees me as a Family Member and not as romantic partner anymore. She says she doesnt know her Feelings now and needs time to process everything.
This is really hard for me. I give her the time she needs, an we are Just communicating Like sometimes when she Feels right. She is really distanced and doesnt Talk about much.
I know this is really really hard for her und she is kinda reliving all her past and decisions and everything again and needs to assign new meanings to everything. But this is really hard for me, to hear this and im kinda scared what will happen next.
Hmpf. Does anyone know or has gone through Something similiar?
Thanks for every information or Help.
Christian
Hey @Cworf
My name is FrenchMarbles, I’m one of the listeners here at 7Cups and it’s really nice to meet you today.
Christian, you are an amazing partner and you’re going through a really difficult time because you’re trying to be there for her but also you seem to be receiving the horrible parts as she relieves them from her memory. How are you coping with that? That is not easy for anyone.
Where do you see yourself in the future?
Best wishes
F r e n c h M a r b l e s
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Hey, so I felt compelled to reply to this. I too have been diagnosed with CPTSD, along with anxiety, and major depressive disorder. I too have been abused sexually, mentally, verbally, etc. so I wanted to reply from that point of view. Trauma for me always seems to come back around in waves because many times the hurt that comes with the trauma is too much to deal with and it just causes us to shut down, so that we don’t have to hear it anymore. When these “waves” come back around it’s really difficult to understand our own feelings. I recently just got out of a 2 year relationship because I felt like my mental health was not where it needed to be to be in a healthy relationship. It’s hard to love someone when the trauma you have been through has made it hard to love yourself. Yet- we get in these relationships because we’re scared to be alone and it’s nice to have someone, but it circles back around to “how can I properly show them the love and attention that they need, when I can’t show it to myself” it’s really complicated. Even though you probably really want to talk to her, give her some space but let her know you’re there.
