Long distance relationship help
I have been dating my long distance boyfriend for a little over 6 months. He has lived through pretty severe trauma and abuse and he has poor mental health because of that. I'm worried about if he will ever recover from his past and let go of his fear of rejection and insecurity. He has to know where I am at all times and who I'm with, and we sleep while on the phone together every night. I feel like I don't have freedom to do what I want and I usually ask permission to go to anywhere, even to the grocery store. Sometimes when he's stressed he gets very angry and threatens to hurt himself and I have a hard time calming him down. It stresses me out and gives me anxiety about his safety. I don't know if I should stay with him and keep trying to help him or if I should break up with him so I can be less stressed and happier.
Hi. I think he should try getting professional help again until he finds somebody that he likes and that can help him.
@Lunar06 Hey.. Good day to you. Hope you are well and safe these days :)
I have had a 5 year long distance relationship and i think to manage a long distance relationship for a long time, we really need to have lots of patience and have to be able to manage issues that pop up cos of miunderstandings, time difererences, etc. Your situation is slightly tough due to this issuses he has faced and i can really understand what you are going through. and i know how it feels like.
Before getting in to a breakup or leaving him or anything else ask yourself questions such as How long will he be away from you? iif it is a short time period and will that help you to manage the situation?, Can you two discuss the problem (rather than you keeping it in the mind)- make him understand the issue? Just like some others have mentioned can he go to a professional and seek help? Most importantly think what connects you two.. Is it love? If love is there lots of sitations can be managed. Can you think of creative ways of keeping him connected? there are Couple apps which shows where you go,etc and if you feel ike it's okay that he sess whereever you go can you find creative modes to manage? I remember i used to write in Penzu Journals whenever i missed my partner and my partner used to read it whenever wanted to get in touch.. Think about it and see what you want to do.. Ask right questions from yourself for you to come in to a decesion :)
Hope you will be fine soon. Take care.
