Is love the second time around going to work?
My ex and I just got back together 1 week ago. We broke up for three weeks but stayed friends and keep in contact the whole time. I am scared and hopeful at the same time in this second chance of being with him. Hopeful, because not all exes can stay friends and get back together like us, so there must be something special with what we have. Scared, because were in a long distance relationship right now and I am afraid that our breakup damaged our relationship and he is going to love me less this time. Have anyone of you got back with your ex before? What should I do now that were starting all over again?
@Zombie2018 It can. I know of various scenarios like what you described (trying again after a breakup and not working) but I know of a couple who broke up for a few months, got back together and then eventually got married. They're still married.
It can work. But communication will be key. I hope it works out. :)
@ReadBooksDrinkTea I hope so too. Thank you :) I'll just do my best and not stress out of the things I can't control.
@Zombie2018
I have just gotten back with my ex the third time around, but this time, we're doing the best we can to make things work out for us and resolving the issues we have. I will tell you, though, it won't be as easy as it was the first time around. I know the feelings of anxiety and stress when getting back with someone. It's a bit nerve-wracking. From my experience, give you and your partner some time and space. Take it slow, not rushing the process. During the space and time, focus on yourself. Figure out what your wants and needs are. This is a new relationship. Your first relationship with your partner is dead. I say that, because having a mindset of renewing the first relationship or picking up back where you started, will lead to old issues and bad habits arising into the new relationship you're trying to forge. Treat this second time like it's new. For your second try, figure out why the first time it didn't work out. What were the issues that led up to the breakup? Both you and your partner must sit down together, address those issues, and focus on resolving those issues. DO NOT REPEAT those issues or else, you and your partner will fall into a repetitive cycle that led up to your breakup. It's an emotional roller coaster you don't want to get on. Also, because it's a delicate beginning, once you and your partner resolve the issues, focus on positive moments and outgoings. Create new memories together. Chat up exciting or new things. If either of you are in each other's town, get together for something fun. Don't focus on the breakup since that is in the past. Second chances can happen. It works well for some; for others, it's a chance to know yourself better in romantic relationships. Good luck on your second try. I hope it works out for you.