I'm a controlling, obsessive, and jealous person

Hi. The title of this thread is something that I need to admit. My partner admitted to me that he was terrified of me and safekeeping his emotions with me.

I grew up in a traditional asian household. We didn't talk about emotions or feelings or anything like that. My parents have terrible relationships with their in-laws and as the oldest, i have become a sort of therapist for my mother when she has issues with my dad and them. She admitted to me that my dad cheated on her and convinced me to enforce rules upon my own partner to ensure nothing happens. So because of that I drove him away from his friends and he has been so lonely without me even knowing it.

My partner is very in tune with his emotions and a very sensitive person. I am a very logic-based person, and have trouble opening up emotionally and considering others' emotions. He would come to me with things that hurt him or made him feel bad and I would brush it off and not want to talk about it.

I know i do not deserve the chance he has given me, so i am going to make the most of it. My promise to him to fix things will not be empty. I am hear to back my words up and become a better person for him, myself, and the future people I interact with. I want to break my generational trauma and become someone who he is proud and happy to have by his side.

Thank you for reading this. and I'm sorry to anyone who has been hurt by someone like me. I saw first hand what I can do to someone and i never want someone to feel that way by my hands again. Please I would love some advice, criticism, or anything that could help me on this journey of betterment.