If we didn't have children together I would leave.
Really it is as simple as that. This is a long story but I'll try to keep it a brief and concise as possible.
I met my husband online. It was a rebound relationship for me I was in a long relationship with someone who didn't have the same future goals as me. We married about a year and a half later and I was pregnant right away, I miscarried. He told me to get over it. It was a very hard time for me because I am from a different state and so is my family. I didn't have a lot of support close by and he was not a shoulder to leave on. I got pregnant again within another month. We were having issues though and I didn't want to separate with a baby on the way. That was 5 years ago. We have 2 kids now. I got my tubes tied because I didn't want to have any more children with him. As it is now I feel like a single mom because he works all the time. I have a full time job too.
We have been to therapy in which the outcome was that the therapist suggest he work on his anger issue and I "widen my window of tolerance" . I did that so now I either don't care what he does or says or I just am tired of caring. I am depressed now normally I'm just at a chill level. I take anti anxiety medicine too. The therapy got me to I think just not care as much about how he acts like as ass to me and says super dickish things and acts like a fourteen year old. I think he is a selfish person. There's too much to this story I'm just tired of telling it. I love my kids. I want them to be happy. Them having 2 parents that love them is what I want. J want them to be stable and have a stable upbringing. My husband and I don't fight because I don't let it get to that point because of the kids. If we do he can be extremely mean and I don't like them seeing that. I won't lay over and take it but I will give it back and it wouldn't be good. I keep the peace for my kids. I don't know if anyone has experience with getting divorced with a 4 year old and a one year old.. or has experience with staying married until the kids are older. I'm just tired guys. And I feel alone trying to make things work.
I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I can't relate to any of this seeing as I am not married to someone like your husband. But I hope you know that I wish you find happiness down the line. That must be awful dealing with a partner that is so nasty towards you when that shouldn't be how it's supposed to be. He should definitely help out more because at the end of the day it's his kids too. His responsibility just as much as it is your's. I hope you can eventually find yourself in a better situation for yourself and your kids, you don't deserve to be treated the way he treats you. Stay strong momma
I can relate somewhat. I stayed with my children’s father for many years because I thought the kids needed to be in a family as such.
After building up the courage (which was so hard) I left him, the kids were 7 & 9. I now realise that this was for the better, whilst staying with their father it showed them the wrong way of life family wise. In their eyes certain things were acceptable which normally would not be. Unhappy parents reflect on the children’s upbringing no matter how much you think you are hiding your sadness from them.
I too felt alone everyday, but when you leave, it’s a different alone. I’m not going to lie, it was a very hard journey raising them on my own BUT I would do it again in a heartbeat because the children are so much better for it.
I hope my experience helps you, I truly feel for you right now. Just stay strong for those little ones and take one day at a time. “Problems don’t last forever” xx