How do I motivate without nagging?
My wife is hands down, my best friend. There is nothing I would ever rather do, than spend time with her. However, she sufers from depression, anxiety, both social and generalized, (as I do as well) and she is incredibly self-deprecating. She is extrememly talented in various fields, but refuses to practice to refine these talents. She's been out of work for a really long time, and while I make enough to support us both, we could be living way more comfortably if she would help out. Everytime it comes to applying to a job, she makes the excuse that her portfolio needs to be updated, when I tell her to work on updating her portfolio, she comes up with reason after reason not to, for example, there's no room to work confortably at home, her computer's too slow, she doesn't like my computer, she's just too tired to work etc. I know a lot of this stems from her afflictions, but I don't know how to motivate her, without seeming like I'm just nagging her and making her feel worse about it. Any ideas at all?
Maybe suggest she look for a Part Time position. It would be Less overwhelming than jumping into a full time job, after being out of the workforce for a long time
Use positive reinforcement, humans naturally respond to positive behaviour than negative
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Have you thought to get her something to encourage her in her talents? My who loves to draw he was downand had not done much of it for some time. So I brought him fresh paper a d drawing pens, he hadn't done it in some time it seemed to help him lighten his thoughts a bit. women can be extra hard to encourage without insulting. But especially when looking g for work something like a hair treatment or helping with the resume may make her feel supported and loved.
