Emotional absence
My husband and I are married for more than 3 years now. The first one year we were in different countries due to the lockdown, that caused us not being there emotionally or not understanding each other emotionally. We are still struggling and I feel like becoming parents could give us a new perspective to look at our relationship but my husband do not want kids. He want me bond with his family who are the main reason for all the issues in our relationship. For example: his mom tells him that I do not wear sindoor and my husband argues with me about it (we live in the US). I think these are my personal choices and very small things to argue about.
I am not going at expressing and explaining things but I hope you all understand my situation. I am in anew country, living away from my family and friends. And I feel lonely sometimes. Please suggest some solutions. Thank you!
Hi! I can totally relate you dear, as I am too lying on the same situation, I am Indian, I too left my city, friends, family, job everything, stay with inlaws who are so orthodox and keep on provoking my husband just like u said! I married last year and it was an arrange marriage,, and I think not only u or me, majority of Indian girls go through such situation and endup feeling lonely! We stop loving ourself! I started doing yoga, go for a walk, connect to new people, cook, keep on learning new things, get a selfish life and love yourself first dear,, with time I believe things will start getting normal, explain your husband emotionally. I was about to divorce I was so much frustrated, but that should always be a last option! You make changes on ur routine, schedule and keep on learning watching positive things! Last but not the least keep ur expectations lower!
Thank you 😇
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I hope u find some peace and happiness soon
Thank you so much, this is very helpful! I wish you all the happiness in your life 😇
@tidyCurrent1882 I understand that this must be very challenging for you I suppose. You need to feel secure in your relationship and that is a basic need for any woman who is with a man. So having kids and starting a family is truly important to keep a woman healthy in a relationship. I understand that you don't want to feel lonely which is totally okay.
In this trying moment, I want you to bond with your husband's family and don't be afraid to express yourself or your vulnerabilities because you are hurting inside and true peace and happiness come from being courageous enough to keep holding on to our truths.
Thank you so much for your support!
I tried to have an open conversation with his family but they started bringing past moments where I didn’t listen to them to do something that I was not comfortable with. And they all started to shout and abuse me and my family. No one was listening to me. My husband told me at that moment that his family is wrong and they are frustrated. But now he says it’s all my fault.
I am in a situation where I feel like nothing can be fixed and Divorce is the only option.
@tidyCurrent1882
Speaking to a counselor. Betterhealth.com. Find female support group. There are women dealing with the same as you. Focus on bettering you and working on what makes you happy.
