Effects of Social Media on Life/marriage/relationships
So today I am analyzing the affect of social media on my married life. I watched Married at First Site again this week after taking a break from it. And you know what? I feel like it made me feel insecure in my marriage. I feel like the show makes it seem like staying married is optional and like it's ok to flippantly get a divorce. People talking about their likes and dislikes ...the things that make them disconent...I mean, I think it just goes too far. All realtionships are imperfect, I wanna be grateful for the one I have. I think I can improve on my end and see what happens. I feel like relationships would be better off if everyone had this mentality "How can I improve the relationship" rather than "What does the other person need to change to make it better?" I mean, yeah there are important things in my relationship that need to change but at the same time, there are so many good things and i feel like change will happen in time, if I do my part and keep praying.
@courageousBlueberry3621
Yes! I absolutely agree! I find that I have to be very careful what movies/shows/writings are advocating... and themes.... Romantic movies can often be triggering for me, because really it propels unhealthy concept that we are incomplete and need to find a significant other that perfectly compliments us... which is really essentially codependency and addictive relationships. So I totally agree that there can be this subtext that one's partner should be "making us happy" "fulfilled" "not lonely".... In reality, I am responsible for my happiness, I am responsible for finding what gives me meaning and purpose, and I am responsible for connecting with people and building networks of support, so that I have people to reach out to, and people to connect with...
I am particularly vulnerable to movies/social media/articles that glorify complaining, feeling helpless, victimized, wanting to take no action and wanting to be "rescued," (my easy habitual tendency) so when I can sense it, I run for the hills! Because I don't need any help in that area! Also, I remember that most movies are meant to entertain - and what's more exciting than unhealthy full-blown dysfunction acting out.... Healthy is like sitting at a park, looking at the sun, feeling the breeze on my face, reaching out to hold my husband's hand... feeling an internal sense of contentment... feeling grateful for all that he is.... in essence.... 90 minutes of a movie like that.... zzzzzzzzzzzzz.... what's next....lol....
I do my best to fill my mind with things for self-growth, building relationships, mindfulness, exercising, meditation, the bible.... spiritual writings etc. I see the other stuff like "potato chips." They might taste great in the moment and are chock full of addictive flavor and it's fun and entertaining, but too much will give me a tummy ache, poor nutrition, health issues and headache! Totally relate! Thanks for sharing!
