Crush on Best friend, but afraid to confess
If I have cursh on my best friend, but it's just crush, I don't want to be in relationship because we are too different personalities & can't have compatibility as a couple. So should I confess him or not? Because he asked me by numerous time that I liked any guy.
I don't think you should say anything since you know there's a compatibility issue.
Yes I think you are right. But hiding this fact from him is right or wrong?
@frankTurtle651
Good Evening frankTurtle651,
It sounds like you are conflicted about whether or not to open up about feelings you have for your best friend, is that right? I have been in a similar situation in the past with one of my best friends, so I can completely understand how stressful and conflicting that can be. What makes you feel that you and your friend can’t have compatibility? The fact that you are honest with yourself about not wanting a relationship right now is great, because it shows that you know how to set boundaries in your relationships. I can’t give you advice on whether to confess your feelings to him or not in this situation because you are the expert on you, and what is best for you in your relationships. But if you ever need someone to just be there for you and listen to you, feel free to reach out to me. I wish you all the best in this situation and I am hoping for the best possible outcome for you.
Sincerely,
gratefulcompanion
Do it. I did.
In my story, our personalities were so far from compatible, but if we could be best friends, why couldn’t a relationship work. I’ve always had the belief that if you are with someone romantically, they should be your best friend anyway. That there never needs to be a ring on the finger for it to mean anymore than it does.
We we’re/are best friends and mortal enemies, but in a good way.
So, I got a real negative response. I did read between the lines a little too much because love can make sh*t up in your head. BUT! we are still friends and if it goes the way it did for me you may feel ok about it.
if you have the conversation, maybe remind them by saying, if we are best friends, we shouldn’t be awkward if you don’t feel the same. That’s how I kept my friendship. Full honesty.
There’s always way more to a relationship with a best, than just a one or two sided crush. It will feel so much better getting it out. It did for me. If they can’t understand, I’m am so sorry, because it’s going to hurt. A lot.
Just remember, if you speak your heart, it will never be a regret you have to live with.
Hope anything I said helped and wish you the best moving forward.
@frankTurtle651 If that guy is in your mind all the time then i think u should do it i kinda made a mistake of not doing it in past i kinda regret it now maybe things for you can be different if u do and he rejects atleast u wont regret that you didnt try at all.
@frankTurtle651
It sounds like you are in a situation where you have feelings for your best friend but am unsure whether to tell him due to different personalities and compatibility. It is understand that you feel like you are in dilemma right now. Ultimately the decision is yours to make, and it is important to do what feels right to you. Remember that your feelings are valid and you have the right to make choices that align with your overall well-being. If you would like, we can discuss your thoughts and feelings!
@frankTurtle651
Hello frankTurtle651! You said you have a crush on your best friend, and don't want to be in a relationship with him because you are not compatible? It sounds like you don't know what to do. That's completely understandable, I too would be confused if I were in your shoes.
What are the personality differences between you that make the two of you incompatible?
@frankTurtle651
Hi frankTurtle651,
I understand how confusing and frightening it is to confess your feelings, especially when you believe you and your crush have two different personalities and wouldn't work as a couple. You also said that you don't want a relationship, and this is good as it shows you understand what you want and have clear boundaries set. I can't exactly tell you what to do, but I can advise you to take the decision that will make you the most comfortable and won't make you ask yourself 'what if'.
If you're certain that you don't want a romantic relationship due to personality differences, it's important to be honest with your best friend. You can let him know that you have a crush, but you don't see it leading to a romantic relationship. Communication is key in maintaining a strong friendship.
