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Helloo
So I have been with my boyfriend for a year and we are planning on moving together in London in September. I really love him and I think we are going to spend the rest of our lives together.
the only problem is that after my Masters (next September) I want to move to the US. However, he will still have two years of study in London and then he wants to stay in England for a bit more. He said that in the future he would also like to move to the US but only after his studies and having stayed in England for a couple months or years.
I know this problem is a futur problem but what do you guys think?
I think I would stay in England until he finishes his studies but then that means that I would be putting my dreams on hold.
Surely it's tough to make this sort of decisions. There are some things you can take into consideration: one is that yourself is the only person you are 100% sure will be with you for the rest of your life. Neglecting our own dreams can affect our happiness in the future, and regrets are very hard to deal with. Something else to consider is that long-distance relationships are difficult, and you both need to be prepared to make an effort if you want to pursue your dreams and still be together. However, if a relationship is strong enough, I believe it can survive distance. And in case you decide to pursue your dream and fulfill your individual goals, you'll both be more happy with yourselves when you meet again, and when we feel good about ourselves we can also achieve better relationships with others.
Surely being far from each other isn't easy, but there are ways to keep each other close anyway, and distance could be a test that makes you stronger, and turns you in an even stronger, even more mature couple.
But in case you decide that being distant would be too much for you, nothing prevents you from pursuing your own dreams in another moment of your life, if this isn't the right one. Whatever you decide to do, just make sure to what would make you truly happy, both now and later in your life!