Problems with wettness?

@BeautifulSoulsearching4Freedom - Everyone's body is different, so some people tend to be wetter than others. If it feels like it might be to a degree that is concerning, it's absolutely worth talking to a gynecologist about, but there are other possibilities, as well.

If you do feel aroused, but find that you do not produce enough lubricant on your own, you and your partner can explore using other lubricants to make things easier.

If you're not feeling aroused at all, then it's potentially not that your body can't get wet enough, but rather that for one reason or another you're not sexually interested - that could be a lack of interest in your partner, a lack of interest at that time due to circumstances, or overall a lower sexual appetite in general (again, either naturally or because of something else going on that's making it hard for you to get past that block).

A few questions to think about to figure out what might be going on:

1. Are there times when you are able to feel aroused (mentally and physically)? What do those things have in common?

2. If you aren't feeling aroused, have you in the past? If so, what's different now?

3. If this has been an ongoing struggle, what other emotions are you feeling when you think about sex? Do you have fear or numbness or sadness or discomfort of other kinds popping up? Where might those feelings be coming from?

4. Is this something you are comfortable talking you your partner and/or a doctor about?

If you ever want to talk through some of this, you're more than welcome to message me. Good luck, dear!

Well said, Anomalia :)