I need your advice
My friend is a writer. A few days ago, she gave me drafts of her erotic novel to read (because one day she bet that I would be the first reader of her forever ha-ha) and I was amazed at her skill in describing sex scenes! To be honest, I was a little jealous, because in my works I avoid sex scenes, because I can't describe them! She described everything with deliberate realism, especially when describing devices for such plays (a story based on BDSM topic). Once someone told me that in order to write well about something, you have to go through it. But I'm not sure if my friend is into BDSM. How do I know for sure though? In general, I have nothing against it, but I so wanted to experience that quivering excitement before the toy that the main character felt...
So my question is:
Anyone who is into BDSM and can recommend something? I have a great idea for my story, but I cannot imagine either tactile or visual range of my story. All in all, I need help! I will be glad to any advice or recommendations!
Thank you for attention,
love you.
*moved thread to Relationship Support subcom as it is more suitable by forum mentor @rebecca947*
@rosetyler1 Hmm, a very interesting question. As an aspiring writer, I'm also puzzled by this problem. I will share with you some life hacks with pleasure. For example, in the book I'm writing, I personally have never been violently choked - but I have been assaulted, and I have been choked (breath play, albeit very brief) - and those together can form a basis for how it may feel to be thrust up against a wall and choked.
If you want your story to be heavily biased towards physical (objects, persons) descriptions then draw on parts of your life that would fit. Anticipation, sexual tension, arousal, the agonizing pleasure of being on the edge, the feel of the toys, how silicone or plastic feels to the touch. Throw them in a pot and mix it all together and you'll have a basis for such a scene.
Of course this is my style and it may not work for everyone. My current book however is not physically descriptive, it's based on psychological and personal observation. Written in first person with no exposition (what the character knows is what's written, nothing more) so it's a lot of internal thought about her situation and conversations, rather than the shade of green in her shirt.
To get inspired, I can recommend you visit a bdsm catalog I think you will immediately understand how to write and make it catchy!
*edited by forum mentor @rebecca947 to keep post appropriate*
