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Afraid of kissing and more

User Profile: animalShiny52
animalShiny52 November 26th, 2015

I'm attracted to guys, but when i notice i have a chance(which is not really often, nearly never) i act weird and try to keep distance because i think of what happens when you are in a relationship when you are spending your time. Because it's not just about spending time together but also kissing and maybe sex. And i like to have a real relationship and find someone to love but me kissing someone scares me as fuc*. I've never kissed anyone eventhough i am 17, i was always kind of afraid...

Any experiences/tipps/etc.?

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User Profile: NTH623
NTH623 November 27th, 2015

Actually I'm in the same predicament as you except I have been kissed before but when you do get in a relationship just take things slow

User Profile: animalShiny52
animalShiny52 OP November 30th, 2015

But it feels like I destroy it before romance could have happened because I am too afraid of it sad

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User Profile: TropicalMermaid
TropicalMermaid March 16th, 2016

@animalShiny52

Maybe you can find people who are willing to start off as friends😃?

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User Profile: doublerainbow
doublerainbow December 9th, 2015

Omg I can kinda relate! I'm 14 and I like guys but whenever I'm around them I A L W A Y S try to avoid them. And when I do have the chance to talk to them I have extreme anxiety!!! It's so frustrating. I can never get close to guys. My last guy friend was when I was 12 :( ugh

User Profile: BellasHuman
BellasHuman February 25th, 2016

I am 25 and I can really relate to how you are feeling. I was basically afraid of guys until nearly the end of high school (and so of course by the time I was actually attracted to someone they were taken and most of my classmates had decided I was not worth the effort).

I did try a relationship just out of high school, but I wasn't even able to cope with long hugs, let alone anything more. Eventually he moved on.

I tried again a couple of years later and he was really patient with me and took things really slow. I was able to kiss him, though it never felt quite right. And eventually we went further, which I mostly just found painful. That relationship ended badly.

I have tried long distance, which worked for a while but eventually people want more.

These days I am just sticking with having friends and not getting into relationships.

I have also considered the fact that it could be that I am just not that into guys, as I sometimes find myself attracted to women, though I am yet to try it...

Anyway, I'm sorry I can't really offer you any advice as such. I just want you to know that you are not alone, and it might take a bit of time to work things out and that's ok

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User Profile: animalShiny52
animalShiny52 OP March 21st, 2016

@BellasHuman thanks, knowing that i'm not alone helps me also a lot. But now(nearly 18) , i am at the point where i could imagine doing intimate things, although i'm still afraid. I wish you the best that you will find your way :)

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