Trust Issues.

Uh oh this is not good! I'll give you advice based on your personality and what would make you happiest. But I wanted to ask you if you talked to her about it? I mean she is your fiancee and it's your right to question her about it because she belongs to you and not to those other boys. I feel that to be sure you should confront to her about and if she feels really bad about it and begs for you to forgive her, ask her if you can be more open with her, like have her use your phone and you use hers.... so that you can trust her again! After this, there is no reason to mistrust her. You can let her know and ask her to stop cheating on her. Perhaps dont tell her you have forgiven her, so that she feels regretful and won't do it in the future!! ... but after some time you should get all chill again! ...

I'm sorry this has happened to you. It is tough to be betrayed/cheated on by someone who is meant to be your partner. I would say you're very brave for working through and giving the relationship another go. With the whole checking her phone, I did the same thing but didn't find what you found on your partners phone, thankfully. I as well tossed up whether to do it or not as I've never done or felt the need to do that ever before and respect privacy for myself and others. But my partner is very active on social media and on his phone a lot and I just had a feeling. I asked a few friends advice and they said if you feel this way just check it, after I did I didn't find anything with much substance so have left it. But I think I would feel the same as you had I found out the worst case in that I was cheated on. So although I would say it isn't healthy if you feel the need to check your partners phone, I understand if you still have doubts from finding stuff last time. I think if you both have access to each other's phone (me and my partner know the passcodes for each other) that might help with the phone thing. As far as the haunting feeling, that really sucks. But you would have been so shocked, hurt and traumatized when you found those messages/photos and realised the person you loved the most cheated on you. I think definitely tell her that you have this feeling and try not to say it like you don't trust her or that feel she will do it again but more that what happened still haunts you and you just need reassurance in the form of words, love and affection (or the way that you like to recieve love). If she was saying I love you, I only want to be with you or giving you kisses and hugs throughout the day. Doesn't have to be this exactly but I feel if there was some of this reassuring feelings and actions coming from her it would help you not to feel this way. It's worth a shot. Otherwise it may need couples therapy if it continues or gets worse for you. All the best :)

I was in a marriage where my wife cheated on me multiple times. We were young she was in the military. It took alot but I forgave (or so I thought) she ended up cheating again severel years down the road and then again severel more years after that. Now my story is not yours. There is nothing saying yours would cheat again. But I did learn something once that trust is broken it can never be the same. Even in best circumstances. It only takes one questionable thing to happen. You will dwell on it, it will eat you. The sad part it could even change you. Now you are looking at possible not being your true self in the relationship all on a suspicion. You could push her away. Even if she isnt doing something. The brain can be your heart's worst enemy sometimes. I think you need to think on how you are handling it. I was a rock for along time ( so I thought ) but eventually I got bitter and angry. It changed me, I became a person that I wasnt proude of. Towards the end I wasnt a nice person I said alot of not kind things. I finally woke up one day and realized what am I doing. We mutually got a divorce. My biggest regret was I waited way to long. I already did major damage to my own heart.