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I'm going through a rough patch with my wife. Without diving into a whole lot, she does not want to trust me. She thinks I'm lying about being unfaithful. She thinks that I have gone out of my way to talk with other females. I don't know what to do. I told her this morning that I want to start separating myself from this distrust. I don't know what else to do. She also thinks I'm drugging her with drinks that I drink from myself. Is there anyone out there that has advice?
@K3NEOH
If she has these ideas and they seem off since you are drinking same items and she is not making sense ... that makes having a deep and civil conversation is not going to happen, Is she taking some sort of medication and drugs ? i would seek some outside help and perspective on her mental stability.
no prescribed medicine. As far as street or OTC I don't think so. She's been sober 3 months from everything. She has sought counseling. I suggest she talks about this stuff with the counselor, but I'm not going to try and control that.
I'm exhausted with these things she brings up. Says she has evidence, and shows nothing. Tells me I'm doing things I don't do. speaks of scenarios that don't make sense in the real world. *** she though I turned the back yard light out to let a random person honking the horn to let them know I saw them. (I live in front of a busy roadway separated by a 7 feet tall wall)
@K3NEOH
Wow i am sorry you are dealing with that it is hard when they are not making sense and just make accusations that have no logical sense.... she is seeing someone i hope she can work through her issues before it is too much for you to stay.
Perhaps sit down and talk to her. Ask her, what is making you not trust me? Is it other women, or is it me? (You)
if she says it is other women, comfort her and say that you can’t control how other women come up to you or talk to you, but you can control engaging back. She should trust that you are loyal and don’t give women the attention they want from you, and only her. Maybe spice things up in the relationship like a surprise dinner. If she asks why then insist you want to show her that your actions speak louder than your words. Maybe she needs to see certain actions. You can ask her, “what is it that you are needing from me to help comfort you?” And perhaps have her ask it back so its mutual. I’ve been on both sides of this scenario and sometimes all it takes is a few little actions that will change things up. Its hard at first but it gets better. Don’t stress yourself over it too much as we all go through ruts in life. Wish you luck!