My good friend left me and I don't have anyone
I had this really good friend who supported me and cared for me through a bad breakup and the worst situations in my life. Now he says he can't support me like he used to because he got a girlfriend.
I know I can't control him and I shouldn't expect that things would be the same but it is just so hurtful. I feel likeall the progress I made because of him is now gone and I'm in the scariest place again all by myself.
He pushed me away when he reached out to me in the first place. There's a big part of me that wished he didn't come into my life if he's just going to leave me like that.
I feel so hurt and the pain is unbearable.
Man I’ve been exactly where you are. Sadly unlike you my guy wasn’t even there to help me through my breakup. We were mad tight one day and then over the next months we drifted apart to the point we didn’t even acknowledge eachother in school. Someone who was also very close to me told me if you thought that connection was real with ur friend then u can’t give that up. Bout 5 months after we drifted I reached out to him and actually helped him during his breakup. Been boys ever since. If you feelin like your bond was never that strong then move on. But if u were really boys then u gotta fight cuz maybe he ain’t see it yet he will eventually.
I’m in a ridiculously similar situation as you, and I’m so sorry you feel in pain, I just know you’ve been an incredible friend. This isn’t solid advice, just my honest take on the situation; if they were really your friend, they wouldn’t let a relationship get between them and their friends. Yes, they now have another person to devote their affections and attention to, but that’s not an excuse to treat their other friends any differently from the way they always have. If you’re not going to be there for them anymore, support them when they need it, give them that same platonic love they’ve given before, just because of getting a lover, it might be best to leave them be and move on. Of course you can still be friends, put that above all else, but if he’s not going to care about as a friend should be just because of a girlfriend, he’s not worth it. Even the way you mentioned he worded it- no offense, but it was pretty douchey of him to just say that outright. I know it’s easier said than done, especially with what he’s done for you, but I hope you can find that warmth, comfort and support in someone else, if not him. :(
@blueMoon6099 He doesn't sound like a good friend if he got a gf and won't continue to be a good friend that's really a shame