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My boyfriend lazy and it affects me

plumMaple10 November 16th, 2022
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Me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship, we have been in it for 2 years, he is 2 years younger than me. Now I'm in the final semester and he still hasn't gone to college, since 2020 and because of the pandemic all processes are slow and finally now the documents are complete. Now he is preparing for the next process and possibly next year. But so far since 2020, he's not a productive person and that's quite stressful for me because I like to be on time, I like to be disciplined and get up early, we are both very different.




At the beginning of our relationship, he tried to accompany me in the morning, video calls. But it lasted a few months and until recently he could no longer get up early, I became obsessed with him and and depend on the presence of my boyfriend, because currently my college system is hybrid, so there is a lot of time from morning to evening and I don't do anything . The reason is because I don't have friends, my bestfriend is married and has a baby and my college friends they only use me, and I only rely on my boyfriend.




I thought he would change, but every day he just apologized and the next morning again he didn't get up early, it happened every day until I postponed taking the exam because my assignments weren't finished. I love him, I know if I think normal then I will leave this man because this is not good for me, I need an active man but I already love him, I don't know how to solve this. 😔





I want to graduate soon, but I'm not enthusiastic anymore, I can't, I don't know what to do, I feel that my parents only demand me but don't give emotional support. And I feel my boyfriend is selfish and take advantage of the situation that I love him and forgive him, I feel very alone while my journal and my reports are also difficult.

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toughTiger6481 November 21st, 2022
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@plumMaple10

Have you thought of making new friends ...I understand what you are saying about needing support but i can tell you from long term experience that if he is not getting up early or making efforts to be there for you NOW ... the doing the bare minimum attitude in NOT something you can work around later in life...unless you want to be responsible and the one that gets things done .... think long term is this doable.