Am I the only person/couple that deals with this. Any advice/help is needed.
The husband and I have been together for 19 years, married for 16 of them. We have our disagreements but this last one was a doozy. I worry that it is at the breaking point. I have dealt with him cheating both physically and emotionally. I have forgiven him after each time. So naturally have I have some trust issues and major jealousy issues. The trust issues isn't the problem, my extreme jealousy is the problem, and It is ruining our marriage. I can't help but feel jealous everytime he mentions a females name, he has female co workers, which I know most of them. I can't seem to get over being jealous all the time, its starting to mess with my mental health. Has anyone ever experienced jealousy problem in their relationship and if you did or have what kind of advice can you give me. Please help.
@crimsonEyes500
Ok, so i am assuming his cheating was with a co-worker.... he stayed with you begged forgiveness and this person was just used .... they share work time but you share a life..... maybe he is more fun with them ....... is that what you can be jealous of?
Sounds like in the end he wants to stay with you so why would you be jealous of a person who was a cheap thrill or short term tryst and you are his Wife..... sounds like she is not much to be jealous of.
If you want to get over the issue discover what he was getting out of the cheat part? ...
does she make him feel attractive... funny ... interesting? that is what some people are missing in relationships and they either think about straying or actually do.... Are you getting that in your relationships i think many long term marriage / relationships we forget to treat our partners like we did at first flirt and make inside jokes etc.... if you miss that find a way to get it back.
he knows you are worth more or he would have left.....