my friend's parents hate me
so my friend's parents think i am a bad influence on her cuz they read our texts where we were cussing and talking abt boys (like teens do) but they called my mother n asked her to never let us text again both of us find it hard to make friends........ she is my only friend n now idk what to do she has hence texted me n we r friends again but im scared what her parents would do if they found out...... i cant leave her cuz we r besties for like 7 yrs but she is not really doing well mentally n i dont want to leave her like that.....what do i do?
@diapendant
What is more then cussing and boys in texts?
what was the discussion about why/ or what could change so you could remain friends ...... while there are some parent who may be super strict ....
IMO they think they see something concerning in you ..............above language and boys?
what was discussed with your parent or did your parent ask for more information or discuss?
this is a possible grown up moment ...................where you could discuss where things went off the rails and what are their concerns .........or could you make agreement about cussing or whatever as i think it might be deeper then that....
Going behind their back is not a mature thing and IF and when caught will seal their opinion on you.
@toughTiger6481
her parents had been super nice to me in the beginning her mom was our art teacher n she LOVED me her dad liked me too......but then i moved out of town n we were in touch only thru texts her dad called n talked abt flirtatious texts with other guys (tht i did not know of)(she was always very selective of what she told me) n said i was a bad influence cuz i was the only person she closely associated with......i dont think they want me to talk to her he legit told my mom she could have all the friends that she wanted but not me........n tht makes me feel like *** cuz she has always been the prettier and smarter friend n i have always been seen as a minion by everyone in school.....idek if all of this makes sense im such a mess
@diapendant
Her dad came up with that idea somewhere.... if not in anything you did and she was doing other things ... perhaps if parents confronted her ... she pointed at you..... that is only thing that makes sense that dad said she could have all friends just not you.... For a parent to make such a strong statement there must be a item they felt was out of bounds.
I still do not think you have the whole story .......
perhaps if she deflected her parents anger to you to hide it was her...
It is hard and confusing to deal with feelings and accusations that you did not see coming in order for anything like this to be fixed is total honesty .........about what was the reason .... was that something you did or were you unfairly blamed... and if blamed what kind of friend throws you under the bus in this exchange.
@toughTiger6481
My mom tells me the same....that i do not have the whole story...... i tried going through our old conversations to make sense of what happened but there was nothing i think of.....i did push her away but she came back n i couldnt ask her to stop contacting me as i have no friends in the new town....i moved out of town due to family issues....n these issues are very emotionally draining n she is my only listener.....i cant figure out how to let her go cuz ik i have to....mum told me her dad threatened calling cops on me if i dont give up.......
(also, thank you sooo much for taking ur time out n helping these thoughts wont let me sleep i really needed someone who could hear me out.....u dont even know how much this means to me....i love u smðŸ˜)
