Young Adult Drama
My boyfriend and I ‘broke up’ about a month ago, at the end of September.
I lied and withheld things from my life that seemed small to me, but he considered me a liar. We had been arguing since August, and I ended the relationship because I was tired of the constant fights. He hates social media, and since we broke up, he has been jealous of the social media I have, so even after we ended things, whenever we argued, it involved social media or other guys I don’t even talk to. But he imagines things in his head.
He is 29 years old, and I am 28.
For about a week, we’ve been talking normally, but he is still very hurt by me. I didn’t value the relationship, I put my work first, I didn’t listen to him, and I didn’t support him. I was so focused on my new job that I didn’t make him a priority. I love him more than anything in this world.
I feel like he still cares about me. Yesterday, we were together. We had lunch, watched a movie, and he slept at my house. We had sex, but I felt like it wasn’t the same. We talked, and he says he likes me, but he’s very hurt and isn’t able to deal with everything. I don’t know what to do, I love him so much, and I don’t want to lose him, but I feel like he is slipping through my fingers. I can’t concentrate, I can’t eat, I can’t sleep, I’m always sad, and I cry all the time…
@boletoba
It sounds like your heart is caught in this painful push and pull, feeling close to him one moment and then distant the next. You’ve both been through a lot together—arguments, trust issues, and that feeling of disconnect around priorities. It’s completely understandable that all this would leave you feeling raw, sleepless, and overwhelmed. When love feels uncertain, especially with someone who means so much, it’s easy to feel like it’s slipping away.
Rebuilding trust takes time, and it sounds like he’s still processing his hurt, just as you’re trying to show him how deeply you care. Maybe take things slowly, one step at a time. Letting him know that you’re committed to change—showing him, rather than just telling him—could help start to heal that divide. But at the same time, remember to take care of your own heart too. Reaching out here shows that you’re ready to put in the effort, so maybe give both of you a bit of patience and space to rediscover the good that brought you together in the first place. Sometimes even in love, we have to find a balance between holding on and gently letting go of control, letting things unfold naturally.
