What kind of partner do you prefer
I remember when I grew up, i realise choosing partner is like similar to shopping products in online. You have millions of choices, millions of variety and even replacements. In a world of replacements,real love is lost. I remember sitting beside my grandmother while I was small, she told me that real love feels home. You may sleep in different houses but nothing compares to your cozy bed. Most people ,what i see is tired of fighting and goes to someone they feel thrilled. Most people say to me that you are born in wrong generations. In the world of situations hips, casual hookups, fwbs or one night stand , I prefer someone who opens door for me, cooks me food when I am sick and considers me and my children as home, where God should be first and foremost. I have seen lot of people who has three or four partners and are never satisfied or have multiple hookups but feel lost. Loyalty is out of question. What I have seen most is that these people do have amazing spouse who have flaws just like them, and yet they would be in sites . That's how depressing our world is.
People celebrate anniversary every single year but they are unhappy in their real life. I think love is supposed to make you feel grow. Not break your spirits.
@lovelyPower9238
Agree so much with how flawed the concept of relationships and "love" today has become. Many people don't seem to value these things enough, and it shows. Sad. Extremely sad. (':
Here's hoping everyone gets their chance on recieving the love they need, want and deserve.
I'm right there with you, wishing on some of that old school love. It'll never lose charm for sure. 💛
@lovelyPower9238
When I saw the title of your message, a list of my old-fashioned expectations about a partner started to run in my head: non-smoking, non-Catholic, no body piercing or tattoos, open to the values of equality, but with no overly feministic inclinations, not too concerned about money or external appearances... That feels safe to me.
Yes, I believe you are right that the most important thing about a partner is feeling like home, and being with someone who cares...
But I think there are some exceptions: from my observations many people "prefer" to remain in relationships with persons who are addicted, abusive or cheating - because this is making them "feel like home" (I mean the bad-but-familiar vs. good-but-unknown dilemma).
Also, some people (including me) occasionally might have some tendency to feel like home with partners who remind them their parents. And then it really depends in which traits of our parent the partner is like - the good ones, the bad ones, or both?...
@lovelyPower9238
Be there when it's⬆️ or ⬇️,,
When I'm old & she,, we look back & see beautiful moments, a good life together