This is driving me crazy...
Ok so my husband and I have been together 33 yrs. In the last few years my husband has been doing something that drives me crazy!! No matter what we discuss I can not get mad or upset, If he senses I'm angry at something, he gets angrier. I can never be mad, it's always him. He will avoid me for hours or days until I say i'm sorry. It's crazy! I have valid reasons to be upset, but it's always him walking away like he was upset first! Has anyone else experienced this??
@lulufay
Yes i have and it is on him it is deflection.
He wants to turn things on you instead of dealing with things ... it is a way of changing the subject and making you feel it is your thing.... every time we have discussions he gets defensive IF i start to get mad or upset. Makes it hard to get anything resolved or fixed when it is like walking on eggshells with him.... I refuse to be apologetic but say something like I am sorry YOU misunderstood or took something wrong. that way he hear sorry but does not see it is on him
