Struggling
I recently got a new summer job as a caregiver and I need to make a lot of money in order to afford rent so I chose to work 40 hours a week, but unfortunately my boyfriend lives an hour and a half away and my job is 30 minutes in the opposite direction so I can’t just see him after work because I would be working most hours of the day. I only take one day of the week off and it’s the same day he is off work. The only problem is I want to be able to hangout with friends too and it’s stressful having to choose between them and him. I especially want to find time to hangout with my friends because I never get to see them and I am moving to my college town very soon. I’m afraid I will never get to see my friends from home again and that I will regret choosing my boyfriend over them.
@therapeuticwriting01
Hi there.
Congratulations on the new job!
But I can totally understand the limitations and challenges that makes for your social life. It sounds like you feel like you are having to chose between two groups that both mean a lot to you and it completely makes sense that that is difficult for you.
It's very valid to fear that you might not see your friends again, when you move away to college. But I hope that doesn't turn out to be true for you. I moved abroad. I rarely get to see my school friends, but when I do, it's like nothing has changed. I think this is a sign of great friendship - it doesn't matter the time or distance, you are still there for each other. We can't predict the future, but I hope you will still be meeting up with your friends when you are old and grey.
What does your boyfriend feel about this? Listening and understanding his feelings might help you both navigate this.
Best wishes
