Relationship assistance and talking
Things in my relationship aren't doing well. (I've been a major factor in that for a while and in the relationship I have not been open, vulnerable or talking.)
I am a fearful avoidant personality type and I have a bad habit of shutting down and stonewalling. I have a habit of going into silence in conversations.
I want to try to repair my relationship and I know that the issue with talking is one of the biggest obstacles to jump.
Does anyone have any ways to help with opening up more and talking more? I want to fix this relationship more than anything. I know it will take work and will take effort. I know it will take a lot of unlearning bad behavior.
I've caused the person I love so much harm and I don't want to do that. I don't want to continue that.
Was it always hard to talk and be vulnerable with your person or has it gotten harder and less frequent over time?
It's been worse over time.
We have all dealt with a lot of death and loss.
I used to be a much more open person and now I am constantly scared that I will say the wrong thing or hurt someone.