Relationship and happiness
Just a question. Why do people tether their relationship to happiness?
For example, I travel for work a lot, couple times a month. Traveling excites me, to meet new people, network, and I feel like I’m valued at my job. My girlfriend (of 5 years) and I got into an argument yesterday, and haven’t spoken much, which has really impacted me on this work trip. Being I can’t be there to talk to her, and she’s not answering the phone. I’ve been down all day. Which sucks because if you asked me on Friday how I was feeling, I would say, “things are looking good”, I was overall happy.
I’m probably over reacting, but man today has been ***. And sitting alone in this hotel room with my thoughts isn’t helping much. Brings me back to some sad times I’ve felt in the past.
@godmescudi
Life is interconnected bad day with spouse it flows into work or even mood in other situations .. the same can be said in reverse bad day at work can be a bad evening at home.... we can try to compartmentalize but our mind is always spinning.
How does she really feel about your travel ? She may say "if you are happy" or sees it as a career builder but in real time it gets old fast. My spouse also had a travel job and I grew more independent. i did not like always having to do partner things and make decisions about home repairs or such alone or the wait til I am home ... resentment grew too.
When you do catch up with her what was she doing at time of missed call?
I know my spouse expected me to sit at home until he did a zoom call and i could not get things done i wanted..going out with friends etc ..... waiting for call and then not wanting to go after waiting. Do we all assume our loved ones have phone in hand hoping it rings.... maybe you are losing the thrill of travel and being apart too.