Narcissistic Discard?

I’ve been seeing than man on and off for 5+ years. I really did love him. When things are good they are great. When we split its usually his choice and it starts with him either doing silent treatment or saying that I’m controlling, too much, needy, etc. before he does that he will get moody and distant. He will be gone for 3 months, 6 months, a year, etc and then one day show back up with false promises, affection, apologies, etc. He will usually say I forgot something, but won’t give it to someone else to give to me and wants me to come get it as an excuse to see me. The other excuse is that we shared a dog and adopted a dog together, but I can only see the dog on his terms and at his place. I’m not allowed to take the dog with me or spend time with the dog on my own. So another excuse to lure me back in. We just split after about a year a few weeks ago and it started with him playing video games and then ignoring me when I called he was still making conversation with his friend and then getting ignored for 3 weeks. Then he blocked me after I set a boundary that he said he wouldn’t do the silent treatment anymore and that he lied and that if I don’t hear from him then I’m considering the relationship over. In the past he’s turned people against me by calling me crazy for simply reacting to his actions. He always comes back. RN I’m trying to focus on my life, self care, etc. I’m still dealing with all the hurt and pain this has caused me.