Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

LOVE ADVICE HELP

User Profile: linvi
linvi September 1st

I have a friend who says he likes a girl (this girl isn't very kind. He knows this and doesn't like it but still mentions her sometimes). They're not dating and she doesn't know either. 

I like this friend. And something happened today that I NEED people to help me explain. 

for two years he has been very kind and very supportive. Weve hung out a lot alone and he was there for me through a painful breakup months ago. 

Last night he hung out at my house and we had a wonderful evening sitting outside on the deck. 

He invited me to go to his house today at 2 to watch a football game, and after a morning of goodwood and spilling salad dressing in my dad's car, I left to drive to his house and he greeted me at the door.

His family was so kind and welcoming, and we joked around about how my dad doesn't know anything about what goes on at where he works.

We went upstairs because the streaming service was having technical difficulties and he braided my hair and gave several hugs.

We went downstairs to briefly watch the game as I drew on his arm.

We went back upstairs twenty minutes later. He told me I was loved, cared for, not judged. I cried in his arms because I felt overwhelmed with love after a long conversation about the future.

An hour after playing a wii game and talking and me crying, he ended up holding my face.

He was staring into my eyes, and told me he loved them. He has my hand on his chest. He said he found it weird that I could feel his heartbeat. I told him his eyes were pretty and he blushed. We looked at each other for a good ten minutes. He was staring intently into my eyes the whole time, I closed mine or looked around the room because eye contact is scary. He was stroking my cheek and staring and occasionally adjusting his face...

It felt like he was about to kiss me. I leaned against him a few times in a way that he could easily lean away from my face but he always stayed close. Finally I leaned back and let him look at my eyes again and he leaned his face against mine so our noses were touching and he could have kissed me if he titled up his chin just so. I froze. I think I wanted him to? But also that would make things complicated?? He could have kissed me. He said several times he could feel my heart beating faster and his was as well. He said he isn't usually this close to a pretty girl. We stayed like that for a minute and i don't really remember what happened next. Besides I drove home. 

So confused and somewhat dazed. This lovely wonderful boy is in my life and I don't even want him to leave my life and if we kissed or were romantic I'd be scared of losing him forever if it didnt work out. 

He likes another girl though. Help???????

8
User Profile: Boon4U
Boon4U September 1st

@linvi Okay listen...nothing hurts more than not giving it a try and finding out how it went, He is not yours now but he can be if you ask him and if he says no, then remember you never had him in the first place. but asking him can actually change your life maybe....so just communicate, doesn't matter if he is in a relationship or whatever, just make sure that he is a genuine person and not a player.

2 replies
User Profile: linvi
linvi OP September 4th

@Boon4U

I'm just so scared id lose him as a friend and the kind of relationship isn't the priority, he is

I just feel so confused

2 replies
User Profile: Boon4U
Boon4U September 7th

Good and understanding friends won't leave you just because you are expressing your emotions... it's all right, you can tell him that you don't want to end your relationship as friends even if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings... it's totally upto you.

1 reply
User Profile: linvi
linvi OP September 10th

@Boon4U

I guess that makes sense

He would not up and leave me if he didn't reciprocate it's just scary

load more
load more
load more
User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 September 1st

@linvi

"Liking " someone that he has no relationship with is not a challenge to how he feels toward you... i guess people do not understand until it happens to them ...... love grows with friendship similar interests making each other laugh and comfortable ...... being comfortable and able to share your thoughts is what is needed in a relationship....

so many young people say they "like" a person based on superficial looks and what they assume that person is when they are watching tv and having a laugh etc ....... often the looks are all the other person has......... you have been his friend and he knows your heart. 

1 reply
User Profile: linvi
linvi OP September 4th

@toughTiger6481

I wonder if that's the case if hed realize and tell me

load more
User Profile: linvi
linvi OP September 12th

@linvi

Update on this. he doesn't like that girl anymore and he's been flirting more. But I don't think he'll ever outright say if he likes me, and I don't even know if he does. I said a fictional character was my dream boy, and another instance I said that he reminded me of this fictional character, and now he'll tease me about it and it makes me so happy but man im stressed about this like. someone please helpp

1 reply
User Profile: Boon4U
Boon4U September 13th

Well think if this is the last day you're gonna be with him, how do you wanna live it, and keep living your last day with him everyday, you'll find your courag.

load more