Infidelity
Hi. I’m currently trying to get over infidelity. Something I know is very much common but it has been hard for me since the day I found out. We started dating in 2020. We very much had an off and on relationship at first. Despite how many times we were off, we never left each other alone. We have a child together. In April of this year, I found out he was cheating on me. Something I never expected from him because I never suspected it. It was 2 females. Not 1. And the cheating went on for about a year. He claimed he only dealt with them when we’re on bad terms but text messages makes me think otherwise. I spoke to both females because I still married him in May of this year. He has changed so much since then. But now I feel dumb for staying because I was faithful to him, never stepped out on him & he betrayed me. I think about it often. When we’re just laying around, being intimate, literally all the time and it has changed who I am. I love him so much and I hate to give up on my marriage but the trust is gone & I worry about him texting other females alllllll the time. It’s annoying. Idk if this is normal or a sign I just need to move on. He tells me all the time he regrets it and he will never do it again but those are just words. Idk 😪
@fearlessKiwi4102
It is a very hard thing to face........ and you are correct words are nothing without real actions behind them . IMO affairs do not just happen ... there was something behind it .... unless you deal with the root it will not end.
did anything in discussions with the other women shed light on anything ... did they know his marriage w/child status ? how did it start? what was he looking for?
in relationships people have different needs and if one is not being met sometimes another fills that void.
if caught and they say will not happen again but if they still do not have that need met.............. it will happen again. People are not in your shoes some will say do this or that based on their experience ...if you want to save this it is a lot of work and sometimes not pleasant to see where things went off track
It can be done and most do not admit because judgmental people always jump to one answer DIVORCE. so people who moved past infidelity rarely speak of it to avoid the lectures of" i would have " from those who are NOT in your shoes
