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Aliscoop June 20th

So, these past few days has been calm with my girlfriend. We haven't been fighting for a few days and I like having calm days with her. 

Earlier, she went out for groceries, and after that, she didn't update me if she got there or anything else. She messaged me using her moms phone, telling me that she didn't brought her phone, and I said that it was fine. When she got home, I was waiting for her to tell stories so I said I would just take a shower, but she wasn't responding again and I felt sad and lost the excitement inside of my body.

We started calling and I was sulking but I wanted her to ask if I was, but instead of asking me, she called me Cameron from Modern Family. It was simply telling me that I was being dramatic or fragile and I denied it because she was making fun of me. I set aside my emotions and we started talking, In between, I started drinking while half lying and half sitting and she got mad. I mean, I understand why she got mad and I said sorry. She said that we already talked about it and I'm doing it again so I got quiet and didn't know what to say. Then she jumped to conclusions, telling me that I was mad that she scolded me (she always does this). I just hate that she always tell me what I'm feeling. So as she was saying something, my phone got a notification and I checked it, but I didn't catch what she was saying so I asked again what it was, and she got furious again. 


She told me that I wasn't listening to her and that we already talked about it. I apologized and told her that I would not do it again and that she was the only one that I would love to talk to, but then again, she got mad, telling me that my words didn't match with my actions and that she didn't want to hear those words again. I'm just hurt because I'm communicating with her, and all she did was lash out at me. I'm really trying to be better for me and for us but it seems that she doesn't see my efforts. This is making my head hurt. Also, she told me that I should be more open to her, I don't know how, because i got scared that she might tell me that I'm making her feel bad by sharing my feelings


 

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PineTreeTree June 20th

@Aliscoop Don’t try to figure her out, just learn to keep yourself out of trouble. Logic doesn’t apply here so don’t try to use it as a defense. Remember, she is always right, and if she is not then you’re to blame because of it. Buckle up, it’s going to be a long ride 😂

toughTiger6481 June 20th

@Aliscoop

Your communication may need some help never met a couple who did not need to work on it but her scolding you or telling you how your are feeling etc is NOT ok.   it shows no respect and is condescending.   

This sets you up for more communication issues down the road because why the he11 would you share feelings to be told no you feel this way etc....  while i feel checking phone in middle of conversation leads to missed hearing something etc.... and imo should be avoided if possible it is common and she seems a bit oversensitive to that fact.