How do you get over a crush?
I went on one date with a guy 2 years ago and I still haven’t stopped thinking about him. There was a lot of chemistry but it was also awkward and we both had some embarrassing moments. The ending was pretty anticlimactic but I was still charmed, and we kept each other in our contacts but never contacted each other since. Ever since I first laid eyes on his picture he’s just been stuck in my mind and I can’t understand why. Maybe it’s because he was the first guy I talked to after I broke up with my ex. The obsessive thoughts have become so irrational and time-consuming and I just want it to end, but I really don’t want to reach out to him. I just want to forget about all of this so I can have full focus on my goals right now, which are already a lot to handle. So I’m here to ask if you’ve ever had an unhealthy crush on someone and how you got over it?
@singularitypls
A crush is often one sided and built in our imagination of we will find all this in common and live happy ever after.... the only date was did not produce this magic we have envisioned and although we said we would contact we did not....
so in the mean time we imagine more of how it CAN work.... this is only one sided ... he does not even know you feel this way.... even if you reached out he is not aware of the mental script we may have in our head. This is also safety for us ...........to keep this crush alive because we do not risk new real relationships being serious etc because we are holding out hope that our vision will come true.
i met someone and they were OK but not WOW at first sight............ but when i learned their insides they are gorgeous in my mind...... also have met some that looks were amazing ......but once i knew the insides all i saw were flaws. we think we know people .. we may follow or read their socials but taht is not the real person either.
ask yourself why are you holding on? only you know.
Try looking for “*** childhood fairy” she talks a lot about these kind of things..
I wish you rhe best