Dress issues in relationship
My boyfriend doesn’t like me wearing tight dress or sleeveless dress , he said i should avoid these dresses . Should i listen to him or is there any way that i change the way he thinks?
@pioneeringEyes2217
It was fine with him when you wore them before he became your BF?
Now He wants you to dress differently what is he worried about that other guys might look at you or is he insecure in your relationship? It is definitely a subject you might want to communicate on.
@pioneeringEyes2217
Maybe you might check the following options:
Jealousy - your boyfriend might feel unsafe if you were looked at too much by other men, he might feel unworthy of you and afraid of losing you; you might be very attractive to him, and he might think other men look at you the same way; that is difficult, because sacrificing your freedom for his feeling safer would be no good; I think it is sometimes good to look for some win-win solutions.
Practical reasons - if he believes some clothing do not match you very well.
Over-controlling - if he starts checking how much he can control you; usually people do not do that; that could be a serious red flag; you can recognize such a person by him saying things like "You should not wear it, because I tell you!" (with no sign of reasoning or non-aggressive explanation).
Moral beliefs - some people may believe you should look and behave in a different way when you are free and searching for someone, and a bit different way when you are in a relationship; it might be worth discussing.
Sometimes using the right narrative can make a difference. For example, saying something like: "I like to wear this dress, because this is the one I was wearing when I saw you for the first time" or "Would you like your girlfriend to look like her auntie?" can make wonders on human minds 😉
