Do I deserve the punishing words?

So I may not have the cleanest foundation with my wife however I can confidently say I and we have gotten a long way together in a short amount of time. Tonight I received some harsh words, upsetting things, assumptions, “reminders”.

Okay, so tonight I was unable to reply quick enough or pick up a call immediately as I had not known while out playing cards with my friends. Yes, I apologise but do I deserver the added punishment (just) because our trust is not perfect from our early foundation? I think it is a bit iffy to contemplate it but I feel it is off regardless. I am open to a reality check, or reassurance.