Breakup
My girlfriend of a year and 8 months just broke up with me two days ago. I really really believed she was going to be the one for the rest of my life. I’m struggling very hard because she told me she fell out of love with me and that even though she wants to be with me her heart just isn’t in it and that’s not fair for me. I’m still extremely close with her mom, dad, sister and other family etc. And she told me that one day we will be able to be friends again and I can still be apart of her family. we planned to not talk until May. I’m having such a hard time because I feel like she is living her life happily without me. I really miss her.
@intellectualHouse5712
Hello. It must be very sad to remain the only passenger of the two-person boat called a relationship.
Now it seems you have various options between leaving the boat and letting it sink and staying aboard, calling it one-person boat for some time, and maybe time will bring someone less reluctant to join you on this journey.
Falling out of love seems more complicated than it sounds. At the beginning of the relationship the chemistry might be overwhelming. People meet having their imaginations or expectations of each other. I believe several months is the right amount of time to check if the relationship is maybe for the rest of our lives or... maybe we were wrong, actually searching for something different?
What seems alarming to me is a vision of you being "a friend of her family", seeing her with her new partner, your heart still bleeding for her. Do you think that is really a good idea?
Your breakup wound must be very fresh now, so what would you think about giving yourself some time and let things go into their right places?
