Boyfriend going to concert
I’m not a big kpop fan, I don’t know much about it but I do know that their fans can sometimes be a bit too obsessive sometimes. My boyfriends two friends seem to really like kpop, they send photos of them in their group chat (only girl groups) and have profile pictures of kpop girls. My boyfriend likes listening to kpop, which I think nothing bad of , of course. The thing is those friends invited him to a concert before and he declined because he didnt like the group. I told him I wouldnt be sure if Id be comfortable with him going and he got upset at me and didnt understand why. Now its kind of stuck in my head and I’m unsure if he might go someday or not, even though he told me chances are low he will go to their concert. I dont know if im being unreasonable here I will never force him not to do something but I think it would make me very uncomfortable especially if he goes with those friends. I dont know how to change my perspective here, those girls I know go through diets, use makeup and other procedures to look the way they do, and theyre all beautiful.
@ambitiousKiwi7707 So you going to tell him you’re uncomfortable with him going to a football game or car show or anywhere there might be girls? How would you react if he tells you he doesn’t want you going somewhere because there might be males?
In those situation the focus isnt on the girls performing. And its not about the possibility of there being females wherever he is going somewhere. As I said I never told him not to do something I just said that I wasnt sure if I would be fully comfortable with it. They dress up, and dance, and the focus would be on them.
@ambitiousKiwi7707 well he got upset and didn’t understand why and I just don’t understand either. The main difference seems to be the duration of exposure. Football cheerleaders dress up and dance too. I think of all the things you could worry about, this one might deserve to be at the bottom. It’s not like he’s going to run off with a cheerleader or K-pop girl just cuz he saw one.