Am I the only one to feel this way?
Most of the time when I ask for something to be done and my partner doesn't do it right away, I don't let it bother me. But once in a while it doesn't really bother me. And I can't understand why. And because it took to long to complete, I then go and do the task myself. But they get mad cause they said they would do it and I couldn't wait for them to complete the task. Am I really the only one that feels like when I ask for something to be done, I would like for it to be done at the moment.
@drmthwsn
No you are not the only one... it is very aggravating.
We try so hard to give them space and time to complete something but if it is NOT their priority it slips off their radar and we end up doing it....
OR in my case have to become the nag or remind them over and over....... it gets most frustrating if there is a time limit on items.
@drmthwsn If you would not mind, I'd like to ask you: how serious the problem is for you, on the scale between 1 (not very serious, though might be irritating) and 10 (makes me very upset and thinking I am with a wrong person)?
How do you feel in such situations? Anything like: Disrespected? Losing control? Not loved?
I believe people are different. Some of them like to keep things in order both at work and at home (it's me), some of them are clean at work, but messy at home, and some of them are lovers of "poetic chaos" everywhere.
I believe home is not a workplace, so there are very few things that MUST be done right away (like extinguishing a fire in the kitchen or helping to remove water spilt on the wooden floor). Also, people have different priorities. Some bad smell in a trash bin might be #1 problem for me, but it can be as far as #3 or #4 for my partner.
How would you like the idea of doing priority things by yourself and delegating to your partner things than can be done a little bit later without causing much harm?
