Accusing me of cheating.
Im so close to breaking up with my girlfriend. March makes a year and we are living together. She has problems with my privacy. When she is beside me, I don’t mind looking at my phone or looking at it sideways. I also have a privacy screen on it and she hates that i have one because she thinks I am looking at some something that i don’t need to be looking at like women on *** or anything else and she hates that i love white women (she being a black woman. I’m black too). It now makes twice that she has accused me of cheating on her because last night, a scam caller called me at 4am and I decided not to answer it and she thought i came home late from work one night because she thought i was out with another woman, and she didn’t even tell me that she was sorry.
What do i do? We have a trip next week and i bought a ring to ask her to marry me on her birthday in March and now I am just tired of it all but i have hope in this relationship and something can change.
@joshuamwoodard I am basically like your wife and on here seeking help for the opposite side of the problem. Unfortunately, her behavior is probably stemming either from her own trauma / past experiences or from mixed signals she's getting from your actions versus your words.
I wish I could tell you it will get better, but I can't in good conscience recommend you marry her before you've seen if it can. One piece of advice I have for you is to make an effort to reassure her regularly and unprompted, especially if you've given her reason to think you're attracted to something she's not. She clearly does not feel secure, and I'm not saying it's your responsibility to shoulder her own issues, but if look into it there are definitely things you can do to help her feel more secure in the relationship.
Otherwise, for your own mental health, you may want to consider if there's a healthier relationship out there for you. Both paths a valid. Wish you the best.
Thanks! I’m trying. I’ll take what you said and try my best at this
