finding friends in a world where it feels like you have none

So, you're feeling lonely.

I've been there. I am there. Everybody is or has been there at some point in their life.

But, it's really tough to admit to ourselves that sometimes we isolate ourselves. We push people away, because we're hurting. We do it on purpose, sometimes. Most of the time, though, we do it without even realizing. We push our feelings and thoughts and interests and everything that makes us unique into boxes and store it far away somewhere. We get quiet. We stay at home after turning down some sort of meetup that sounded terrible because we didn't feel like getting out of bed. We make excuses, or find things to do so we don't have to make connections. And it doesn't make us bad. It just makes us lonely, and nobody has to be lonely.

Sure, you might be different. You might have flaws. Everybody has flaws. But, you have things about you that are amazing and cool, and other people share those same things, or at least are incredibly happy to be around someone who does. Making connections is as easy as complimenting someone on a shirt that displays a character from a movie you really like, and maybe asking them about their thoughts on (x scene, x pairing, etc). It's as easy as seeing someone struggling to do something that you understand, and asking them if they need any help, perhaps even taking the time to explain to them so they understand, too.

Yes, I do know that getting the courage to talk to a stranger is hard. I know that the fear of rejection, the fear of confrontation, the fear of being ignored or disliked... I know that it fills your heart and it makes it really difficult to try. But, you can do it. You really can. I believe in you. Ground yourself. Focus on your breathing. Tell yourself that it is going to be okay. Practice online, join some chatrooms and talk to people you haven't met before (obviously in a safe way). But, please try. You don't have to be alone. There are people out there who can truly care about you, who you can have wonderful times with and create beautiful memories!

The seed of connection is difficult to plant, and it takes a bit of time and a bit of TLC. But, when the seed finally blooms, a lovely flower can emerge. Plant that seed, grow that flower! You can do it!

What are some tips you have for creating friendships?

And perhaps for keeping them?