True Friends
I've been thinking some about friendship in the last few weeks...I'm a people pleaser and all my life have done things to accomodate my friends, have been agreeable and giving and said "I don't mind" when sometimes I do. It's been making me wonder how many true friends I have...people who I can share my real opinions with, who I can even disagree with, but will still be there for me. After careful thinking, there are one or two, so maybe I don't need more than that. I also find that it takes a long time (and often a lot of work) to build those relationships.
I've also been having the thought that maybe we're all selfish...basically just looking out for ourselves, and if we can develop a relationship with someone who we can get something from (and they probably get something from us in return), maybe that's all we can hope for.
What are your thoughts about true friends? Do you have a few? What do you do with the people who aren't true friends, whose relationships with you are more superficial? Are they just there to get what you can from them? Are almost all relationships (other than maybe parent-child) based on selfishness?
@NothingGold Hi, I agree with you! Everyone is out for them selves. I heard someone say recently that friends are just people who use us for what they want. But having no friends is a lonely place, I have had many friends who have let me down so now I don't want any negative people in my life. I am also like you will do anything for anyone and care too much, you have to be strong and start to put yourself first. If people don't put into a friendship the same amount as you then they are not any friend you want. You sound lovely so don't change just be more aware of how others are treating you. Best wishes :)